to ask someone to move their child out of my plane seat

[kipperssippers]

more of a WWYD then AIBU but...
i booked the seat by the window as i always do and when i got to my seat a child around 8 was in my seat with her mum beside her.
When i got there i told the mother that the window seat is my seat and she said her child wanted the window seat to look out, i then replied then you should of booked one.
I didnt want to cause a scene but the women made out i'm an arsehole for asking her kid to move as she had never been on a flight and wanted to look outside.
I did give in and stayed pissed off for 7 hours in my non window seat.

what would you of done in this situation?

cats

So how do you teach your children what is right and what is wrong?

If you don't think it's rude to take what is not yours how do you tell your children about stealing?

So your dd likes another child's hair slide and puts it in her bag without asking because she wants it. For her joy what would you do?

Hello?! I still need some money for my children's joy! Want to take them to Falkirk (that's in Scotland, Cats) to see the Kelpies and ride on the wheel. But it's kinda far, so an overnight in a Premier Inn. £100 will buy them a really magical experience. You've said you're not tight, and you put the joy of children before money. So again, my PMs are open when you're ready for my PayPal details.

I have two as well, as do my children. My home country doesn't officially recognise dual nationality but doesn't prevent people from having it (or triple nationality or more).

Sorry I should have explained that better. I come from NI which legally recognises dual citizenship.

^
To be serious though if the child in question had such an entitled mother and was demonstrating to that child by grabbing things that didn't belong to them, like the plane seat, and was then abusive I would consider it my duty as a normal person to teach the child that grabbing, abuse and entitlement doesn't get you your own way in life.^

Defiantly shift the kid.

Totally agree with this.

I tend to think 'raising a kid well' is a better goal than 'make a kid happy and bugger the impact on others'.

But I'm old-fashioned. And foreign.

I have to say Cats if you are going to go round "making children happy", you are going to get spectacularly fed up in time. You give give give and then come on and moan when the good old British don't give back i.e. miss their stop because you asked them to go to another train exit. One day you might want to put your needs first, or your son's. Because at the moment you and your halo are so righteous you are coming last in the queue.

Sometimes there are systems, like seat booking that are there for extra cost and for the comfort of the passengers. You seem to discount the reasons why a person might need or want that window seat. They are an irrelevance to you. As long as we don't upset the children. Most strange. I think you must realise you're in the minority from traingate and this thread. And it's nothing to do with cold unfriendly and twattish British people. It's to do with common sense.

I'm actually thinking what can't be put into words but begins with G

cats Are you Santa?

punkrocker I vote we make a child's joy a new catchphrase like those english ones with gov phrases (forget the name).

We could have bibs, t shirts (adult and child), babygro all with the phrase - I see it now!

Everyone you rob a child of joy a fairy dies. Fact.

< passes round the hat to collect for expats weekend to see the kelpies >

< shakes it LOUDLY under cats meows nose >

expat

Cats You can't be vile to people on a train like you were and on two threads when you are trying to convince everyone what a lovely and kind person you are. It kind of defeats the object...

This whole thread reads like a parody. Hive mind vipers versus saint-like exaggerated outlandishness with a migrant/ non migrant dynamic thrown in for good measure.

Most of us here are mothers and are used to putting our kids first. When we do not have kids with us, we do not want to put other peoples kids first all the time. Sometimes we put ourselves first. And that is fine.

Super

I always stick to my seat as booked.
That is always an aisle as I need to get up to the loo more than most people and I like the leg room of the aisle. I wouldn't give it up for a child.

passes round the hat to collect for expats weekend to see the kelpies

hangs head in shame and not knowing what kelpies are
However if it involves alcohol then I'm in.

I think I helped a child's joy, because the 10 year old boy who was with the family I asked to move probably would have been as unimpressed as I was with the Peanuts film.

I too am a naturalised Brit (but been here since I was 3 so as far as I'm concerned, have always been British).

I have known (either good friends or family or through living there), Danes, French, Germans, Kiwis, South Africans, Australians, Americans, Canadians, Greeks, Irish and Icelanders. Don't think any of them would tolerate the rudeness of the mother - nor are they as crass as brand "the English" as cold

I have lost count of the amount of times people have been asked to move from their paid for booked seats for families who have not booked

Tell me about it

I've always found it works if you simply ask the parents to refund your booking fee for the seat ... they generally make a catsbum face and bugger off to whine at someone else

Result

Donates a tenner to expats kelpie fund and passes on hat
Last week I went on a chopper, no room for seat shenanigans on that

Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for children is to not bring them up as complete and utter little shits.

And also the world does not revolve around a child's joy ffs. What about my joy as an adult? We don't all stop finding things magical or having fun just because we are over 18. A child has many years ahead of it to have fun, sometimes adults don't.

How interesting. OP joined only yesterday and has only posted this thread.