to ask someone to move their child out of my plane seat

[kipperssippers]

more of a WWYD then AIBU but...
i booked the seat by the window as i always do and when i got to my seat a child around 8 was in my seat with her mum beside her.
When i got there i told the mother that the window seat is my seat and she said her child wanted the window seat to look out, i then replied then you should of booked one.
I didnt want to cause a scene but the women made out i'm an arsehole for asking her kid to move as she had never been on a flight and wanted to look outside.
I did give in and stayed pissed off for 7 hours in my non window seat.

what would you of done in this situation?

If that's the only thing you have to be horrified about, it's a good world you live in.

' in other places being kind to kids wouldn't be considered entitled.' Except when it comes to a pre-booked, paid extra for seat on a long haul flight. This gal got lucky, most people, regardless of culture, would have another person move out of their pre-booked and paid extra for seat. You pre-book it for a reason, you want to sit there, otherwise you turn up at check in and take your chances because you don't care where you end up.

I pre-book on long train journeys and long-haul flights. Can be a faff and cost extra money.

Someone else in my seat is going to soon get out of it.

Don't care what their comments are, I always travel with powerful headphones.

I'm not British by birth. I'm a naturalised Brit.

expat just seems petty to me.

Kippers' feeding the 'cat'.

Absolutely.

Then you're free to give up your pre-booked seat that you paid money for, Cats. Say, since you're all about spunking away money, can I send you my PayPal details? I could use a little dosh right about now.

expat

I'd rather lose a bit of money and make a child happy because I'm not tight.

Never been to Scotland Private

just seems petty to me. For the last time! The mother didn't even ask the op for the seat THEY STOLE IT! Very rude.

cats So its ok to be rude? To take without asking? Why?

But Lois "THEY STOLE MY SEAT" is a petty attitude. It's a seat. It obviously is important to the child.

Let it go

I don't consider it rude for a CHILD to want to look out the window.

Yes clearly this is the same as robbing people

No you fucking let it go. The woman should have asked nicely.

Cats, that's interesting. Which pass do you have? I have legally recognised dual citizenship, which means I am entitled to two passports, but I didn't realise you could have that in other countries.

What are you putting that interpretation on it, though? You're presenting their goal as to make a child unhappy - if so yes, that would be spiteful.

But not a single person here has said that they take their booked seat because they like upsetting children. They take it because they have good reasons for having booked (and often paid extra for) that seat, and those reasons are still valid despite the presence of a child. The world does not revolve around that child and others are not required to give up their own needs and desires because of that child's whim or it's mother's rudeness or lack of forethought.

I wouldn't give up my window seat to a child if I were travelling solo, because I need to work and/or sleep and the disruption caused by sitting in an aisle would negatively affect that. Is that spiteful of me, or just me balancing up my needs and wants versus the needs and wants of a child I don't know, and deciding that the child's do not automatically take precedence?

NM does seem nicer than MN. MN seems like a cliquey school gate at times

, so why do you post here if you find it so irksome?

Its not about the child! Its the parent!

I love how some people have equated the child being in the OP's seat with the mother KNOWING it was the OPs seat and feeling entitled to put the child there. How on earth is she going to know it's someone elses seat until they get on the plane? It's not like trains they don't have a special ticket or different seat cusion on booked seats. I have sat next to many empty seats on planes. Also I have had many people asking me to move because they thought I was in their seat when they couldn't decifer the seat code. It can be tricky and a genuine mistake for first time or infrequent flyers. Maybe initially the mother didn't even know the seat wasn't hers. Bit cheeky to then ask for the child to stay in the seat though, but then if you don't ask you don't get. In this case the mother asked and she got because the OP gave in.

How this turned into a bash the English thread? It's not the friendliest place in the world and It's very anal people get upset about non issues AKA a good moan but come on cats you sound very bitter.

Sorry, I mean do have a foepreign pass port?

'I'd rather lose a bit of money and make a child happy because I'm not tight. '

Grand! My kids will be very happy with some money, since you're in the way of doling it out for the joy of children. We can go on a family weekend away they would really find magical. About £100 should cover it, seeing as you're not tight and in the business of furthering the joy of children.

As a matter of interest, Cats, and apologies if you have already mentioned it, what nationality are you if you don't identify as English?

Stay I don't want to out myself by saying where, but it's a European country and u have both passports

Jassy because that's how some of the posters are coming across. I paid for it so it's mine etc. in your case I don't think that's spiteful but I think you could at least offer them to sit there for takeoff or something?

Till going then!

I am horrified that anyone can use the phrase a child's joy without pissing themselves laughing.

Still tickles me today.

Plane threads just give and they give. However on this one it is ONE amazingly loving, kind poster against, oh, yeah, everyone else who is sane. Still don't believe pusspuss is real. But if she is, hey expat maybe you could meet up and show her Scotland. She's never been there. She may find it less cold and unfriendly than England. .

But Lois "THEY STOLE MY SEAT" is a petty attitude. It's a seat. It obviously is important to the child

It was obviously also important to the person who took the time to book it and paid money for it. Otherwise they wouldn't have done so.

Out of interest, what word do you use when someone takes a good or service another person has paid for?

Ronnie don't want to out myself but a European country

I paid for it so it's mine etc.

That's common sense.