To want to live in a fur free home?

[Yulia989]

Background: Three years ago me and my partner got together. He has a dog. THere was no question of the dog leaving despite my allergy, but I didn't mind as I could deal with it with antihistamine, as long as the dog was kept downstairs and off the furniture. A year ago we had our son and moved to a different house. Recently the amount of fur shed by the dog is ridiculous. We've got a dyson pet hoover, but even hoovering every day, within hours the floor is covered in fur again. The fur gets everywhere - on the furniture, the kitchen counters, the beds - just from being moved around. With our son crawling this is causing me real upset, as every time I pick him up he's covered in fur, and I'm ashamed to say that sometimes it makes me not want to pick him up because of my allergies and the hygiene issue. I'm afraid to bring it up with my partner because last time it turned into a big row over the dog leaving my car covered in fur and me "acting like the dog is a burden". I just want to live in a clean, fur-free home, and have my son play on the floor and come up without fur all over him. AIBU?

Spring?! It's barely above freezing outside!

YABU and your attitude stinks in your replies to people.

If I were your husband, I'd ditch you and keep the dog.

Sorry YABU.
You chose to move in and get pregnant with a dog owner.

I feel sorry for this little dog, you don't like her much do you?

Goodness me
Can we remember the talk guidelines, please?

HQ disclaimers obvs apply.

Id swap your furry house for a glitter free house. Bloody stuff is everywhere, i hoover and it comes back. EVERYTHING glitters. Its like fairies have exploded over any and every suface.

This thread, and everyone on it, is batshit

You're on it... ;)

Is this the OP with the giant tv issues? Or was that someone else, the username is familiar.

He's agreed to brush the dog every few days with a furminator, and I also brought up what would happen if the dog got incontinent and he said we'd have to have her put down in that case.

Been an improvement so far just after a few brushes.

You have my sympathies op, both for the dog hair and the way this thread has gone nuts.

Apologises didnt realise this was a dead thread! Oops!

You knew what you were getting into when you moved in. A dog is going to shed.

Maybe laminate flooring will help so you can just brush it easier. Also brush the dog each day as it will get rid of excess fur in a more 'controlled' way. He'll still shed, but you'll find it easier to deal with.

We had an Akita who shed constantly. It was hell in spring!

Yabu to expect a fur free home with a furry dog in it.

Regular outdoor brushing will help though.

so in descending order of importance in your house ,op. is hubby the top dog or is the dog ? And where are you and ds ? YANBU ,op. But on mn , as you can read , you will not be given permission to live without antihistamines. BTW what happens when the allergy escalates to the next stage and you need a puffer? When my dd's son was discovered to be allergic to dogs and cats, they came to live with me! As, guess what,the humans in my dd's house were more important than the animals. Is there a relative or friend who cd take the dog and allow you to live a healthier life ? I wd seriously question the depth of my relationship with a man who places his dog over me. Not to forget your ds and you cd have a better relationship if the dog went to another home.

so in descending order of importance in your house op. is hubby the top dog or is the dog ?

In descending order of our house my dog is top dog as she's my assistance dog. My DH takes second place to my dog as I can actually live a relatively normal life with her here. My DD takes antihistamine every day due to her allergy of animal hair. I will question her tomorrow to ask if her depth of relationship with me having an assistance dog is worthwhile of her having to take an antihistamine every day. You sound very bitter amarmai

shave it

this thread is not about you , your assistance dog , your dd and your dh. My response was to the op not you. Stop pretending it's about you.

YANBU

I don't understand people who put their pets before their partners. IMO he should re-home the dog or build it a kennel and run outside.

You shouldn't have to put up with fur all over your home, especially since you have an allergy and crawling baby!

a kennel and a run outside? For a social animal like a dog? It's not even advised for rabbits to stay like that anymore. Jesus Christ. You know s lot about dogs. Take a domestic pet and chuck it outside shunned of company in a kennel to accommodate someone who's entered your life afterwards knowing you have a pet and for s situation which can be managed.

This thread was a bit barking!!

Dogs are great, but the OP is important too - and I completely agree if she became more allergic and the fur caused her problems then it's definitely not unreasonable that the DH needs to do something. What would be reasonable - for the OP and son to move out??

Ps lots of dogs live in kennels all over the world, they're very happy. 😀

Your partner needs to respect your right to good health, and brush the dog properly, and make sure it is kept out of bedrooms and family rooms.

Does he lack respect for you in other ways?

I know plenty of people who keep their dogs outside in a kennel with a run- far more hygienic! The dogs seem happy and content. I have other friends who restrict their dogs to 1 room eg conservatory, so rest of house stays clean.

So what if the dog was there first? It is a dog. A pet. What sort of man prioritises his dog over his wife and baby son? What if son develops allergies too, should the dog still come first?

This thread is three months old, people. It's a bit pointless addressing OP who may well be totally unaware that it's suddenly been revived.