Prom problem

[Geriatricme]

Hi
My daughter is mega excited over her prom coming up this year. Her best friend and her have been excited for over 6 months. Prom dresses are a major element in this! The friend bought her dress and looks lovely in it. We then went and bought my daughter's dress - in the ridiculous hundreds - in the colour and style she was looking for. She loves it and was beaming. The friend has now though stated she wasn't sure about her dress - bought from a national store - and has tried on and really likes another dress. It's in exactly the same colour, neckline and fitting as my daughter's dress. My daughter is so upset. There is a history here of my daughter's friend buying clothes my daughter says she likes before my daughter can buy them. I have always said she should consider it flattery and not to worry. But this is a bit much - they would be sitting together! The friend hasn't bought it yet but may do. This has now caused upset between the girls and unfortunately us mums are too. Are we overreacting? An honest opinion really wanted here? Thank you

[Mandalorian]

All the dresses in those links are bloody awful though

Then perhaps a good job all people have different tastes then isn't it?

[IoraRua]

Oh fgs, the flapping over the price of the dress is pointless. OP has said it wasn't a problem. Posting "I made mine out of handwoven nettles and worked by the light of earwax candles" etc etc - good for you, I'm sure they were beautiful dresses, but different strokes for different folks.

Having said that (if op is even still reading), I would keep original dress and be very secretive about hair, makeup and accessories!

[PeachFuzzzz]

I wouldn't be pleased either. All the pp saying it doesn't matter - if you were attending a wedding / formal function and your friend / colleague knowingly copied your outfit, would you really not mind?

[SapphireSeptember]

Narp and CaptainCrunch I see your £50 and £30 and raise you! My wedding dress was £12.50 and from a charity shop, and that was in 2014. Saying that I see some gorgeous prom dresses in charity shops, all under £30, (it's just a shame they're too small for me. )

On topic, I cannot understand the amount of money people spend on prom dresses, BUT the idea of buying the same thing if you know someone else is going to wear it seems weird to me, it's one thing doing it accidentally, but on purpose? Hopefully your daughter's 'friend' will change her mind, but tell your daughter to keep quiet about other things from now on, and even if she does get the same dress they still won't look the same really, the accessories will be completely different (hopefully!)

[Potatoface2]

i dont think the OP is upset about the dress, shes upset about her daughter being upset!

[juststeppedoutofasalon]

Secondary teacher here with hideous and hilarious job of supervising prom. Over the years I have noticed a direct correlation between the amount of time spent worrying about prom and exam results. Girls who don't give a rat's arse about all things prom do better. They also don't end up in messy tears at the end of the night when their date snogs someone else. I'd tell your girl to take it on the chin and to just concentrate on enjoying herself with people she will lose contact with as soon as she gets to university ( if she hits the books).

[Bunbaker]

"if you were attending a wedding / formal function and your friend / colleague knowingly copied your outfit, would you really not mind?"

Nope, not at all. I am tall and slim and most of my friends aren't, so it is unlikely that anyone would copy what I wear anyway.

[MostIneptThatEverStepped]

For both my daughters the way it worked was their year group had a Facebook group or similar where the whole year group posted pictures of their dress for this very reason: it's a huge fucking deal to them at that age, they look forward to it and plan for it all year and in their minds the worst thing that can happen is that someone else turns up in the same bloody dress!!

The price issue is irrelevant, what I've said above is the salient point!!

[amarmai]

what if you offer your dd the diff in cash if she returns the expensive dress and gets a charity shop one?

[Trickydecision]

No proms were around when this old gimmer was young. A final school assembly with a rousing rendition of 'Lord, dismiss us with thy blessing ......" And that was it. Very cheap.