Change in access due to ex new job

[Sunbeam1112]

Currently ex has DS tuesday from school taking him bk to school wednesday. Alternative fri at 5pm 5pmsaturday/ saturday 9am -sunday9am ( this was done to add some flexiability and gives each of us a full weekend day with DS to plan activities.

This has worked really well the last 5 years. Ex has informed me hes changing jobs and is on a new two week rota.

Week 1 Mon-Fri 8-4 will collect DS after 4 Tuesday & collect after 4 Friday drop off 5pm Sat.

Week 2
Mon-Fri 12-8pm & Sat working till 1pm

Ex is unable to have tuesday overnight instead requesting Saturday after he finishes work all day Sunday drop off at school Monday morning.

This would limited my own time with DS on the Saturday as I want him involved with activities with siblings and us. Am I AIBU. Looking at the timetable I have suggested if ex wanted to have DS for breakfast and be involved in the school runs during the second week as he doesn't live far away.

[Penfold007]

On his late shift week he could have DS from Saturday afternoon and take to school Monday if there is a breakfast club or drop to you if not. On his early week he could pick up from school Wednesday and drop to school or to you Thursday morning.

There is no way he should get all the leisure time.

[RandomMess]

Is it possible that DS doesn't like his step mum/they don't have a good relationship?

There is clearly some reason why your DS doesn't like going there for too long and why your Ex doesn't want extra in the school holidays...

I do agree you need to be aware that your DS isn't keen to increase contact and actually it's about what is best for him.

[Sunbeam1112]

I've asked if like dads DW he said shes nice. I know her from school and is shes not a nasty person and is a primary school teacher. I get the impression because she teaches they want some time away from children together when they are off( they dont have any of there own, so pretty much a young couple with ties). Although the extra help would be helpful. I think DS prefers being at my house just for the fact he has a close relationship to his sister. Where as he is only child at his dads.


Penfold, Saturday would be my only weekend day and i would like the full day to spend with him and Ex have DS on the sunday through to dropping off at school. If u gave him half of the Saturday that leaves with minimal time with DS.

[Sunbeam1112]

Without ties*

[Penfold007]

Sunbeam sorry if I got it wrong. I was aiming for full weekend on his late shift and you having a full family weekend the following week. No way he should get the fun time only. Oh and he really should do more child care during the holidays.