AIBU my cleaner keeps using things!

[SpecialLittleLady]

My cleaner has opened a brand new reed defuser which I got in the sales and was keeping for when the newish one we have out is finished. The thing that has really pissed me off is she put it on the shelf next to the one we already have out and threw away the lid so I can't put it away so now have 2 fancy £20 smelly things out at the same time! Would I be a cow to confront her about it?

[CiderwithBuda]

It's overstepping the mark although she obv thinks she is being helpful.

We had one like this. Shared with a few friends so I know she did similar to them too. New friend had just had a baby and had quite a few photos of the new baby which she left on the table. She came home and cleaner had gotten out some picture frames from a drawer and put the photos in them. Being helpful but way overstepping the mark!

She also loved to cook but wasn't that good. Was babysitting for another friend and decided to cook. Went to fridge and took ingredients friend had in to cook for a lunch the next day for guests (us - and she had promised us a curry) and she made a pork and egg pie. Friend was furious! Nobody liked this pie she used to make.

She was an amazing worker though and honest as the day is long and we all miss her.

[Pipbin]

As for the OP's question.
You are not alone, mine does that as well. She reorganises stuff too.

[DanglyEarOrnaments]

We are a cleaning company and it is within our training that our cleaners must not throw away anything not inside the bins unless it is obvious rubbish (such as an empty crisp packet etc) and then they would be reprimanded if we found out they had been going inside customers cupboards and drawers.

I think it's presumptuous and intrusive tbh.

[Jollyphonics]

headmelt I'm not sure if you're being serious or joking. Obviously just because dreadful things are happening, doesn't mean no one should ever express vague dissatisfaction over relatively trivial matters.

OP, every cleaner I've ever had has thrown away toiletries that I felt I had a few more days use out of. Now I ask them not to throw anything away at all ever.

[Moob]

Do the things with "a few uses left" appear in the bin, or just vanish?

[BerylStreep]

I was going to write that none of my cleaners had ever thrown out toiletries or opened things before, until I remembered that I had to rescue my almost finished shampoo & conditioner that she had thrown in the bin just a couple of weeks ago (inside bin, not outside bin).

But saying what Epona wrote would be absolutely fine.

Do you keep your candles / diffusers out, or are they hidden away in a cupboard?

[Thetruthfairy]

Go out there and save them headmelt
What are you doing wasting your time replying to threads on mn?

[StealthPolarBear]

Yay pip bin! ! I am going ro keep that and repost it as a standard response if you don't mind :)

[M48294Y]

I assumed headmelt was trying to be funny? If not, he/she should be banned for fuckwittery.

[peppielillyan]

well, after you have money to afford the cleaner, you must have money to buy new candles, diffusers, cleaning products and eqipment

[ManneryTowers]

well, after you have money to afford the cleaner, you must have money to buy new candles, diffusers, cleaning products and eqipment

Interesting logic. Spending more gives you more money? Wow.

[Nospringflower]

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[Pipbin]

Please do Stealth. It pisses me off no end when people get all angry about people having cleaners. If you get home from work tired and can't be bothered to cook you wouldn't think twice about getting in a takeaway if you had the money. How is having a cleaner any different?

[SantasLittleMonkeyButler]

I agree that she shouldn't be throwing anything away (other than things that are clearly rubbish) or using new things, other than cleaning products of course.

How would she know that you hadn't bought something as a gift for someone else?

I would just have a polite word and ask her to stop doing it.

[BitOutOfPractice]

My clener throws nothing away if it's notin the bin. She usually leaves me a little pile of stuff she's collected from round the house that she wuldn't throw away. If she empties a bottle of cleaning product she leaves it out in the kitchen as a reminder for me to buy more.

I would be pretty cross too - yu need to have a word with her

headmelt

[Viviennemary]

Cleaners who have to be told things that are basic common sense are a bit of a nuisance. Unless she's a really good cleaner I'd find somebody else. I'd be annoyed too.

[Doobigetta]

Mine wouldn't throw anything away. To be fair, we're pretty tidy so there wouldn't usually be obvious rubbish that needed throwing, and she wouldn't dream of chucking toiletries out. She leaves empty cleaning products on the side so I know they need to be replaced. Just tell yours, OP- I don't blame you for being annoyed.

[WitchWay]

My DM's ex-cleaner (ex, notice) used to open packets of naice biscuits that were being saved for friends & help herself. She would go into the kitchen cupboards to find them. Mum used to provide her with tea & biscuits of a reasonable quality anyway!

[BishopBrennansArse]

Depends.
We have a clear agreement with our cleaner that we tidy and she just cleans. We have kids with SEND and also agree with her that any body fluids she might find hidden away to tell us and we will deal with them, that's not her job.
She puts anything she finds on the side, even sweet wrappers. We deal with disposal.

Perhaps ask that she leaves items she regards as 'rubbish' in one place for you to deal with - no confrontation necessary.

[wanderingwondering]

I had a ridiculous silent battle with mine for weeks when she used to rearrange the things in the bathroom and I would put them back where I wanted them .
She got the message eventually and is fab in every other respect.

[DanglyEarOrnaments]

Having just RTFT I think pipbin is my hero

[SuckingEggs]

Headmelt, get off MN then, eh? Why are you wasting time on this site?

[SpecialLittleLady]

Thanks everyone I think I'll need to try and communicate with her although it's not going to be easy, she is an immigrant who is learning English rather slowly to answer the other can afford to replace because I can afford the cleaner, we scrimp elsewhere like making sure we use the last of the toothpaste and buy things like the defuser in the sale tk use later. Not that I need to justify but I do work so like to spend time with my kids and husband rather than cleaning