to be the tiniest bit flattered?

[SabinaTheBean]

went on a date last night (wish I actually had nightmares about beforehand as I thought he was very out of my league) and got wolf-whistled while walking down the street with him

DISCLAIMER: i'm not pretty, was wearing lots of make-up, it was dark. Also wolf-whistling never happens to me. Also it's offensive and outtdated

But, in spite of all this, AIBU to be a tiny bit flattered? awaits flaming for being horrible sexist woman with no life

YABU, of course. For the reasons already mentioned - sexist, idiotic chimps, you should be infuriated yada yada.

But you can't help your initial reaction, and when it happens to me then yes, I do feel a tiny bit flattered.

It's probably because I've been so brainwashed by society that, as a woman, I base my worth on the reinforcement of my looks by awful males or something though struggles to care

Sabina... I normally come down like a tonne of bricks on 'wolf whistlers' because having experienced it a lot, it's never something that flattered me in any way because it's unsolicited and not intended to flatter. However, you sound like it gave you some sort of boost and you needed it at that time. I hope your date went really well though and that gave you the biggest boost of all. :)

Heed what MarriedNotDead says... Nobody is out of your league. Print that out and put it on your mirror to give you confidence.

I'm truly aghast at princesscharmaine saying that she likes being wolf-whistled and having her bum pinched. Urgh.

Tea for me, please Worra!

I'm literally the polar opposite and shout 'fuck off you sexist pig' if anyone whistles/comments/touches me.

I realise this may be off putting if I ever had to enter the dating arena

princesscharmaine has just been deleted for being a troll on the baby names board...

One tea coming up, Lying

You can have princesscharmaine's popcorn as she obviously won't be needing it...

It's not flattering. If you say anything back to a wolf whistler they may well change their tune.

Worra... lovely!

Sitting on fence. I think some wolfwhistles have a kinder, more complimentary tone to them than others. Yy they are all sexist, shouldn't be allowed etc, etc but in my experience (not happened for years mind you) a wolf whistle from a bunch of chaps with jeering looks/nudges/comments is horrid and meant to intimidate. It is possible for a wolfwhistle to be more of a "You look good" tone.

So I can understand the feeling of flattery if it was the latter.

Hope your date went well.

See all I get, when out with DH is "oi mate, your missus has got grey hair!" Of course I have, I'm 48!

I'm not feeling particularly great at the moment, so just a water for me thanks Worra!

Affirmation from a random man whistling at you? Well if that what makes you feel good, I suppose....erm, good for you.

Yabu to put yourself down, personally I ignore any wolf whistling I don't need or want creep validation from complete strangers and it's not something that has happened often.

Look in your mirror everyday and realise you are beautiful to yourself, if you believe it then it will show.
I don't mean I strut around like a peacock but I am comfortable enough in my skin and pay attention to my attributes.

But how did the date go?!!! Are you seeing him again?

Glad you enjoyed your date and if you felt a bit of a boos then obviously it wasn't done in an intimidating manner or perhaps you saw it as harmless as you weren't alone, if i ever get wolf whistled at i will let you know in being unreasonable lol

Uh man a man whistles and most of you want to flog him if you don't like it then get one with your day and if you do like it then take it as the confidence boost you need.

Yabu and I feel quite sad for you that you find this flattering

Shouldn't we be able to get on with our day without some random man judging us openly, breezydoesit?

Not U. I used to hate it but since I've aged 20 years in 2 I now take it as a compliment.

whattttttttttttt

am i still on mumsnet??

In my experience men who wolf whistle do it to everyone, including young teens - like my friend's 13yo. So if you're cool being "complimented" by someone who objectifies children, yanbu I guess.

I never get wolf whistled because I am old and fat.

But hey, if it makes you feel that you are superior to me then what the heck. It all depends whether you feel that being judged for your appearance is a deciding factor.

HTH.

I find getting wolf whistled at quite intimidating to be honest.

You are being unreasonable but so am I.
The raging feminist I am I still love them.
I got them a lot more pre depo and ds it did make me smile.