To be hurt?

[FlowersAndShit]

I made a birthday cake (pirate ship)as a gift for my nephew last year and one for SIL for her birthday, both cost about £15-20 each to make. We were talking about designs etc and she mentioned she'd never buy a professionally made cake as they cost too much and she can get one from Tesco for £7. She's just bought a huge princess castle cake for my niece who is 3 and cost her £100.

AIBU to be a bit hurt by her comments?

So you have gone NC, but are upset that she has ordered a cake?

You made cakes - she loved it and thought she would never buy an expensive one again

You then went NC and she had a choice between a supermarket cake and having one made...she went for having one made.

I really don't see why this has upset you

Sorry I didn't make things very clear. The first cake I made was months ago, second was more recent, but I've since gone nc with my brother, so I don't see SIL anymore. She made the comment a few months ago when I made the second cake. Today it was her daughter's birthday and she posted pictures on facebook of the castle cake she paid £100 for.

How do you know how much she paid and what does it really matter?

So what she changed her mind about how much she would spend on a cake. I just don't get it myself but If it hurts you stop looking.

YANBU. Her comment implies that professionally made cakes aren't worth paying for, which is obviously untrue and not the thing to say to someone who makes cakes at that sort of level. Would she like to do her work for free?

A year ago I said I wouldn't buy dd a laptop of her own.

But that's what she got for Christmas. I changed my mind. It happens

I think most of us can see why she bought the princess cake, that is not a reflection on you, especially since she was nc with you, would feel awkward asking you, on top of she probably just thought her dd would love this big castle cake and was willing to pay for it because it was so impressive and dd would love it.

However, the comment she made to you was very unkind, I would think it was a jab if we had more information to go with, we'd have to know more about the context of that particular conversation and if there had ever been anything weird with your relationship at that time.

Maybe the 3yr old asked for that particular cake?