To be passed of at my partner?

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I was knackered yesterday so my partner said I could have a nap and he'd look after our 13 month old. It turns out he spent 2 hours playing on his computer with our son playing by himself. Whenever our son got fed up he tended to him for a short while but otherwise he was playing on the computer.

My partner thinks it's OK because he stopped playing when our son needed him. Aibu to expect a little more effort when it comes to looking after our son? I feel like I can't leave them alone now as it seems he was a bit neglected...

I ask him to stop ignoring our son which he does for a while, but then he slips back into bad habits. I didn't intend to drip feed. These things just naturally come out as conversationa progress. I didn't think of them initially.

My partner very rarely spends one on one time with our son.

My partner often ignores our sons cries for attention while he finishes his "mission"

He gets far to immersed that I can't picture him being particularly vigilant.

Aibu to expect a little more effort when it comes to looking after our son? I feel like I can't leave them alone now as it seems he was a bit neglected...

What's everyone reading? I don't think OP sounds controlling. It sounds to me like the DP considers his time with his DS as babysitting, tbh.

My DH is a gamer. He plays when DD is napping.

what is dp like over all, is he a family person or prefer to do his own thing ?

Sorry to ask this as it sounds patronising, but how old is he?

i don't think op is controlling -why does everyone like that expression ? dp only brought the game aspect in after we all said she was bu, we all made an opinion on limited info, things have swung around on themselves.

Umm my partner is OK for the most part. Although I have to remind him to do things. He very rarely takes initiative with feeding, cleaning and other things. He's 24.

Well, I think very few of us were perfect at 24. Don't sweat the small stuff.

It's often the father who gets to stay 'young' when the DCs come along though isn't it?

How often are there threads about 'He went out drinking and didn't come home till 8am because he knew i'd be there for the kids last night and all today'. It's not fair.

I would honestly re-post this in Relationships OP. I'm not saying this because it's a massive deal or anything, but it if i was you i'd want some advice about how to tackle this issue with him in a good constructive way. which is a bit less likely on AIBU.

I used to read a book when mine were playing.

Bloody good job there were no computers back then!

However - My partner often ignores our sons cries for attention while he finishes his "mission" He gets far to immersed that I can't picture him being particularly vigilant. Not good.

Depends what he is doing in WoW, if he is in a raid with other people then it's harder to just stopstop. I never did raids when the dcs were smaller, just solo quests

I leave my almost 10 month old in living room whilst I am in the kitchen cleaning.

He's fine.

My 2 year old is with him.
If I hear crying I will go to them otherwise I leave them to it. Nothing would ever get done otherwise