To ask if you have ever had a work crush

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And how did you deal with it?

I'm so sorry jilly . I know the pain you are feeling will be unimaginable . Been there myself which is why (as if I needed further reason) I would never act in this sort of situation. My 'crush' will never know I have a crush on him; it would be unthinkable to me.

Have you thought about posting on the Relationshios board for some support? My heart goes out to you.

I married mine too

Yes, with a Russian associate on a six-month secondment to the "magic circle" firm where I was paralegaling. Six months of awkward flirting (we were both pretty nerdy introverted types, in hindsight) and bonding over the photocopier late into the night.

Never went anywhere, but made me realise that Russian blokes are my type. Current (russian) DP was astonished at my grasp of the Russian language when we got together

Had a fling with a colleague which was fine and dandy until I met my DE (waay after it fizzled out and we still were friendly) and then it totally went tits up she turned into a totally crazy person

I ended up having to leave as it was totally unbearable. Biggest mistake I ever made within my professional life

*DW

Yep, mutual attraction but nothing ever happened.

He's married with kids, as am I. We're all spending New Years together.

Yes, we eventually went out for dinner and drinks - went to his place to call a cab - pre mobile phone days, only for him to disappear. He shortly reappeared at the doorway stark naked apart from his socks saying triumphantly TA DA.

I fell on the floor laughing - he went and put clothes on and I left to call a cab from a phone box.

He wouldn't talk to me at work - it got very awkward so I left.

I'm sorry to hear of the pain of those victims of work relationships. I would never act on my feelings even if there was opportunity to. I love my dh to the ends of the earth and couldn't imagine living with anyone else. I think this is probably just a sexual fantasy that's dragged on a bit because I'm a bored stay at home mum. It will always just stay safely in my head. It just took me aback how strong my reaction was to him after all this time and I wondered how others cope with the "never going to happen".

They do eventually fizzle out, IME. They are both hugely enjoyable and unhelpfully distracting (professionally) while they last.

Yes and I married him, carried on working together. Once I stepped back to bring our family up he then went on to have an affair with that we had worked with for years. I foolishly took him back ( was heavily pregnant). Within 2 years he was at it again. The scum bag told be after I left him that it all started out as 'just flirting'.

Let's say I've had lots of fun with work colleagues... and ended up marrying one!

I did.

He was my boss. After months of flirting we got it on.

Turns out he had a micro penis. Like REALLY micro. If I said it was an inch long I'd be being generous.

There was no repeat of the 'action'. Work was highly awkward. I got a new job.

The end.