To ask if you have ever had a work crush

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And how did you deal with it?

Awkward, maybe it is sorrow for what could have been? Me and crush have so much in common, it is quite frightening - we talk about so many things, we like the same music, I just really enjoy his company.

Life with young children and a spouse is hard work - I do not kid myself that life would be all roses with crush but in some ways he makes me feel alive again. Pathetic I know.

Well I think we need pictures to verify this..

Not that I'm flirting. Ahem.

You first Underwood

Well, that's not fair. Nobody likes a tease

How's that piece of work coming along?

Thanks Poppy. I just miss him I guess and the old life he represents.

Oh god yes, I have worked with some beautiful people and have only flirted.

You can't control how you feel, but you can try and control how you respond to it. Also, sometimes we just really click with someone. It doesn't mean we don't love our partner any less - although me and H agree that if we met now we would not get together, a lot of what keeps us together is a shared history and the affection that engenders.

Yes, he was younger than me, single I am married with children.
I was going through a big downer with my dh because he was wasting all our savings on a bad financial decision and I was quite frankly sick of the site of him.
Me and work colleague flirted alot but I would never have done anymore. I felt really miserable about it all. I left the job and he left about 6 months after. I still see him about sometimes but he completely blanks me

It would we done a lot quicker if you weren't distracting me all day

Twice. The first one was in management so pretty dodgy ground and I'm pretty sure it was mutual. Never felt chemistry like it before or since. Never acted on but it all went tits up, can't say how as it will out me. Had to leave my job anyway.

Second one I married.

My crush started going out with my friend instead of me. How dare he!

My colleague had a crush on me. Massively. He told me he was going to kidnap me and take me to be Vegas in his car boot and marry me. That was 6 year ago and now we've been married 4 years

Yes. It was v mutual and we both knew and it was basically ok. Then at our joint leaving party...

He's still occasionally in my life even though he's so bad for me. If Lord wants to tell me how to just switch it off so I don't have these feelings I'm all in - I've deleted hi from social media etc so I don't see him or contact him but it's still there. I clearly need to just find a better man who actually isn't awful so I can move on.

I have them a lot - far too many very handsome doctors in my workplace . I just enjoy them for what they are - harmless crushes that brighten up the dreary working day and just hope that they don't speak to me for too long in case I giggle uncontrollably or do a little bit of wee

I agree with Sir C, I have a work crush on my boss. He is married with kids and I would never ever act on it.

It's a harmless crush - I enjoy it in that "brightening up my day" way. It's quite amusing seeing him get flustered when I am around, dropping things etc, but there is no actual flirtation as that would be crossing the line in my book.

I shagged him and we went out for about 2 years. It wasn't a job that was important or long term though. I would have been a lot more careful if it were a job I cared about.

I'd love to know how you turn emotions on and off. I know how to control behaviour but just deciding not to feel something?

Married mine !

God yes, got one at the mo on a colleague. He is married with kids so would never act on it but luckily is based in our U.S. Office so I couldn't anyway . I love the sound of his voice. Really brightens up my sad little life when he does presentations .

Have never ever fancied a work colleague.
It would make life too complicated.

Married mine too

My first job during uni I had a huge crush on my manager. He was over 10 years older and on reflection was actually ugly but his charisma was amazing. I had a boyfriend though so even though we all went out on a big work night out and he basically told me he felt the same we both knew nothing could happen. Just wish I'd scratched that itch

Current work crush is leaving thank goodness. I will totally miss him as we work brilliantly together and over time there's less flirting and more friendship. But I think it's for the best. There is absolutely no one else even vaguely on that level so life will become boring but probably in a good way. I've had 2 DC since meeting him and he's got a LT girlfriend so nothing was ever going to happen but at least this way I won't be reminded of him every day.

Good for all you look but don't touch types.
My fiance has just left me after having an affair with someone from work. Maybe they will get married.

Me!

I'm hoping it goes further, we're both single. It's been a very slow burn though - 6 months and counting!

Brightens up my day

Oh yeah my husband left me for a work colleague, so I supposed that counts