I might well BU here.
DH is complaining that he never gets lie ins - which he doesn't, due to his own choices IMO.
Weekdays he gets up at 5:30ish (so he can get to work an hour early to have breakfast and get sorted before work). He goes to bed around 11 (sofa dozes from 9ish).
He doesn't do night wakings as he isn't safe at work if he's tired.
I have trouble sleeping and go to bed anytime between 1-3am most nights, up at 7:30 for school.
I get 3-6hrs sleep depending on how many times the kids are up.
Weekends DH wakes early 6/7ish, and can't stay asleep due to his body clock and the fact our 18mo DC2 comes in and cosleeps/BFs any time from 5:30-7 onwards.
DH gets up and dressed, so i usually ask him to take the kids downstairs with him so I can sleep.
I do say if he thinks he can get back to sleep to tell me so I can take the kids downstairs and let him lie in - he almost never does this.
This morning he had an almighty grump about not having lie ins - turns out what he really wants is 'quiet time' on his own downstairs away from the kids, maybe dozing on the sofa or just 'relaxing'.
Our house is tiny, so when I went down with the kids he'd be awake/disturbed immediately.
So, AIBU that once you have kids you don't get to have 'quiet time' on your own when they're awake? We get our own time after they've gone to bed.
And AIBU that if he wants a lie in he needs to stay upstairs in bed and i'll go downstairs when the kids are up - for him to have a genuinely undisturbed sleep I'd have to wake them stupidly early and take them downstairs.
If he's already up I thought it logical that he had the kids and I sleep - surely there's no point us both being up early if one can sleep?