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To never speak to my parents again after this Christmas present?

145 replies

MissHooliesCardigan · 26/12/2015 16:48

My DPs bought DH and me a penthouse for Christmas. However, it's only got 6 bedrooms and is in Kensington. I specifically said Mayfair and at least 8 bedrooms.
I don't know how they could do this Angry

OP posts:
toomuchtooold · 26/12/2015 18:06

For those of you referring to NC, narcissism and emotional abuse, can I ask whether you're meaning to imply that people who use these terms and go NC do so for trivial reasons or because we have ridiculously high expectations of our parents? Because that's how it reads. It's quite rude.

Lweji · 26/12/2015 18:17

Not at all.
I use some of those terms when necessary.

This is a thread for fun and outrageousness and ridiculessness.

Jollyphonics · 26/12/2015 18:18

toomuchtooold that wasn't my interpretation at all. It's just a joke, and the joke is on the people who have been moaning that the gifts they've received aren't good enough. Nothing to do with the people who go NC with abusive parents for genuine reasons.

MissHooliesCardigan · 26/12/2015 18:20

Duh, I forgot to put 'Lighthearted' but I kind of hoped people would understand that.

OP posts:
Funinthesun15 · 26/12/2015 18:22

Is it because they got you a villa in the South of France for your birthday and you were holding out for the penthouse in New York?

If so I feel your pain

Gazelda · 26/12/2015 18:25

This isn't ringing true to me. I'm thinking this may be a reverse. We need to hear the parents' side.
Maybe this was just the stocking filler then they saw OP's ungrateful jaw drop and decided to bequest the 'main' gift to the cats home.

ifyoulikepinacolada · 26/12/2015 18:26

Six bedrooms? Does it even have a separate kitchen for the caterers?

Honestly. Could they be planning a big present for your birthday maybe?! clutches at straws

user7755 · 26/12/2015 18:27

Did they spend just the right amount of time looking at your children, making the right noises but not trying to touch them?

If not LTBs

Lweji · 26/12/2015 18:30

I bet they just walked in the nearest estate agents and bought whatever they had for their budget.

sugar21 · 26/12/2015 18:32

Kensington, oh dear how very awful. I hope they included staff and a Nanny.

Lweji · 26/12/2015 18:34

I doubt it. Bought in a cheap pound estate agent. Help not included. You have to get your own.

Is it at least new, or, gasp, second hand?

AtSea1979 · 26/12/2015 18:34

I hope you informed them that they are both the carcass?

Grin
kittypaws · 26/12/2015 18:36

Op are you kim kardashian?

VenusInFauxFurs · 26/12/2015 18:37

Did they at least bother to wrap the penthouse in paper that matched your Christmas colour scheme?

My parents wrapped my presents in crimson paper rather than the burgundy I specifically requested in my email in October. I have of course gone NC.

kennyp · 26/12/2015 18:41

hopefully you can re-gift it. sad face on your behalf.

and as ross in friends said to rachel's boyfriend when he bought her a scooter for her 30th ..."stick to the list"

LTBs

TartanBirdFeeder · 26/12/2015 18:45

The trouble is it's hard to see things as light hearted when you are in a crap situation Thanks for too much

CandlesAreBurning · 26/12/2015 18:46

Very much inconsiderate of them, but agree we need to know how they treated any siblings/the dog etc. Were they treated as awful as you?

originalmavis · 26/12/2015 18:48

Sadly I have met people like this...whinging about the 4 bed flat in notting hill parents in law bought them. I tried really really really hard to be sympathetic. I'm not sure I pulled it off though.

Andrewofgg · 26/12/2015 18:59

Candles I would very much hope they treated the dog better than the OP or any siblings. There have been few cases of dogs posting on MN about the inadequate lodgings provided by their humans.

BadgersNadgers · 26/12/2015 19:06

Have you been on the Stately Homes thread? I think it would be a good place for you to get the support you need at this traumatic time. I would tell then to keep their poxy shitehole. You could sell it and use the money to buy what you want but I think it would be sullied.

originalmavis · 26/12/2015 19:07

Give it to the maid.

Lweji · 26/12/2015 19:11

Have you contacted the DM (not the mother, the newspaper)?
Or in your case, perhaps the Financial Times.

Jux · 26/12/2015 19:15

I got my brother a house in the south of France; admittedly, the south of France was a map stuck on a large board and the house was lego, but still, it's the thought that counts surely?

OP, it's different when it's your parents. I mean, you're stuck with them aren't you? When they get you the wrong thing it means they don't care. And if it's almost right it means they were kind of listening but not really.

Is this a new thing, or have they always treated you so cavalierly?
Are/were they abusive in other ways?

Did they, for instance, send you to St Paul's or Roedean?

wasonthelist · 26/12/2015 19:20

Call 101 and report it.

Grin
LumelaMme · 26/12/2015 19:31

Oh, OP, if you don't like it I'll swap you.

I've got a surplus bar of soap I was given somewhere...