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To hate Pandora?

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pleasedontopenpandorasbox · 26/12/2015 09:25

A few years ago my MIL and SIL clubbed together to buy me a Pandora bracelet. They have since bought me a handful of charms for it every birthday and on the birth of my children. I never wear it apart from when they get me a new charm. DH knows it isn't me and has mentioned it but any comment is seen as criticism and feelings are hurt.

2 years ago for DD's first Christmas they bought her a simple silver bracelet and had it engraved with her name and dob. Fair enough it can be a nice keepsake but I don't think she needs to be wearing jewellery.

Yesterday her main present was, you've guessed it, a Pandora bracelet and charm. I now envisage years of charm buying and money wasting on pointedly filling it up.

I wouldn't mind as much if we didn't have give MIL several hundred pounds per month so she doesn't lose her home following a messy divorce.

I just hate them and think the money could be better spent on things my DD needs but AIBU considering MIL and SIL are allowed buy whatever they want?

OP posts:
Idefix · 26/12/2015 10:23

Yanbu regarding how you feel about your own bracelet, if it is not you it's not you. Your mil and sil can't get you to feel the sentimental attachment in the charm they have selected presuming that they have spent time choosing for significance and not just an easy cop out

Yabu about your dd bracelets as you cannot predict how she will feel as she matures about the what the charms convey to her about her family.

I think a charm bracelet is a charm bracelet whether it is a Tiffany one or a fossil one or a Pandora one. I don't live in the uk but we do have Pandora concessions in stores not the shops as in the uk but theres a number of other makers of such items.

Confession dh bourght one dmil no idea what she will think as she never expresses anything other than gratefulness for being thought of - will be watching her wrists during FaceTime to see if she wears it. Dh was very pleased with himself for choosing this gift and spent a very long time selecting the beads...

JapanNextYear · 26/12/2015 10:24

My friends boyfriend latched on to Pandora as an 'easy' gift, she tried hinting that a change might be nice. And never wore it. Eventually she had to tell him straight!

Katedotness1963 · 26/12/2015 10:26

It's not unreasonable to hate it. It is unreasonable to decide, because you don't like it, it's tacky, over-priced, shit that others are fools for spending their money on.

ghostspirit · 26/12/2015 10:33

my daughters bf bought her a pandora bracelet she really like it but she kept getting static shocks from it. so they changed it for a neckless instead.

AppleSetsSail · 26/12/2015 10:34

Eeek. My MIL got one for my sister this year, she is wearing it with displeasure until she leaves town.

DisappointedOne · 26/12/2015 10:48

Eeek. My MIL got one for my sister this year, she is wearing it with displeasure until she leaves town.

Why would your MIL buy for your sister?!

Pico2 · 26/12/2015 10:51

It must be particularly galling because, at some level, she is actually spending your money on it. You could give her a bit less cash and not get the pandora charm. Could you take the latest one back?

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 26/12/2015 10:52

I was given a charm bracelet when I was a bridesmaid aged 6, and my aunt and uncle/gps bought me charms each year. I never ever wore it, but omg I cried for a week when it was stolen. I could still tell you what the charms were actually, and it was stolen 25 years ago.

So I think yabu about dd's bracelet, but actually not bu about your own. It's not the same thing at all as an adult.

Leelu6 · 26/12/2015 11:17

hallelujah! someone else here who doesn't get the Pandora thing.

silver tat.

AppleSetsSail · 26/12/2015 11:26

Eeek. My MIL got one for my sister this year, she is wearing it with displeasure until she leaves town.

Why would your MIL buy for your sister?!

We all spent Christmas together.

Ememem84 · 26/12/2015 11:33

I hate them. I have a charm bracelet. Which was my great grandmothers. And will always treasure it but probably not wear it.

I ha e a pandora charm dh bought me. But wear it occasionally on a chain.

Nanny0gg · 26/12/2015 11:37

It's not unreasonable to hate it. It is unreasonable to decide, because you don't like it, it's tacky, over-priced, shit that others are fools for spending their money on.

Not on MN it's not.

Competitive superiority.

WilburIsSomePig · 26/12/2015 11:40

Competitive superiority.

^^ This.

TheFairyCaravan · 26/12/2015 11:45

Every fucking year! Later on there will be a thread slagging off Ugg boots no doubt!

It's not unreasonable to hate it. It is unreasonable to decide, because you don't like it, it's tacky, over-priced, shit that others are fools for spending their money on.

^ Exactly this!

I like my Pandora bracelet, bangle and rings. I was as pleased as punch with the charm that DS1(21) put a lot of thought into choosing for me for Christmas.

dingit · 26/12/2015 11:46

Nope. But I like my bracelet. Hth.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/12/2015 11:51

YABU.

I love pandora but that's besides the point.

It is really rude to criticise someones generosity.

And as for Apple you mil bought your sister a present and she has the ungenoristy of spirit to complain. Wow. How spoilt she sounds.

Palomb · 26/12/2015 11:53

It's juts cheap and nasty stuff without actually being cheap imo. I was given a voucher last Christmas and it took me until September to find something I wanted to buy with it. Don't get it at all.

thelaundryfairy · 26/12/2015 11:53

I don´t like the Pandora charm bracelets. Their stud earrings are quite nice, but a bit overpriced, and I can´t bring myself to buy them because of the brand (I know it´s really silly). I just find it all a bit bland. I´d rather have some mad jewellery from a craft fair that turns my wrist green.

SpellBookandCandle · 26/12/2015 11:57

I have a leather Pandora bracelet. I love it. Not to everyone's taste but no need to be so fucking rude. You sound charming,Op.

ThunderbumsMum · 26/12/2015 12:02

I don't get Pandora at all. I've always thought it so ugly, I really don't understand why anyone would want it. It's not that cheap, either.

chickindude · 26/12/2015 12:03

I rather like mine.
Is a double leather wrap around bracelet. I have about 10 charms, each one representing something I like.
I don't wear it all that often. It has 2 or 3 greenish charms on, so tend to only wear it if I am wearing something green. ( not often ) I still love it though, I love any Jewellery that was given to me with love, and kindness.
I have more expensive & less commercial Jewellery, have had some made from inherited gem stones.
I still like my Pandora bracelet though. I like it more than the ubiquitous Tiffany heart of 10 years ago.

Damselindestress · 26/12/2015 12:07

YANBU. Once someone has bought you a piece of Pandora jewellery, they tend to buy you the charms for it on every subsequent gift giving occasion so it's easier for them to think of a present, which is all very well if you like it and wear it but you don't. And I'm sure your toddler would rather have toys! It doesn't really seem like a gift for you, since she has been told it's not really your thing. It's more about making her look good. You are subsidising her living costs while she is making grand gestures giving expensive jewellery. I would find that frustrating. Why don't you just suggest not exchanging gifts until she gets back on her feet?

mygrandchildrenrock · 26/12/2015 12:17

I don't think a pandora charm is an easy gift. One of my DDs has a pandora bracelet that she loves and I spent over half an hour choosing her a charm this year that I could afford and that I thought she would like. (Which she did!)

Potatoface2 · 26/12/2015 12:21

i think its a lovely gift....sentimental value if nothing else.....what else can you buy for someone who doesnt need anything else and looking at it can remind you of the person who bought it and adds to it

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 26/12/2015 12:23

What a shocker - proof that people have different tastes and like different things! Call the papers!