To not understand how not only does she not have ANY of her kids presents by now never mind have wrapped them.....

[SophieU]

One of my very close friends has a friend, who I see occasionally when we all meet up for coffee or lunch, we aren't close or anything. She has posted on Facebook this morning that she hasn't wrapped any presents, each to their own and all that but I asked her why, and she said that none of them have arrived yet! Aibu to think that by Christmas Eve eve if you want to call it that, that most people would have all of their presents bought or maybe just a few last minute bits to get? I cannot believe how unorganised she is considering she has five children to buy for, I'd be seriously pooping myself now if I hadn't had bought a single thing or had them here to wrap.

Good lord what an awful judgemenal person! i hope i never have friends like you!!!! my mother died not so long, i havent wrapped anything and ive got nowhere like i usually do, i havent put any cards up, i truly think you need to take your head out your arse as there are many far more imporant things in life!!!!

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There you go, some wrapped presents for you.

I think its a good idea to leave it as late as possible. I bought stuff for my kids ages ago, forgot about it (it was hidden) and nearly bought it more than I needed, but found it just in time.

Also their interests sometimes change. If you get something in Oct based on your kids interest, it can be old news by Dec.

Why do you even care?! What the fuck has it got to do with you, you freak!

How do you know she has the money? Getting child maintenance and benefits does not equal having enough money to have the luxury of buying Christmas presents early.

What has somebody else's Christmas got to do with you?
Did it occur to you that perhaps the person concerned may be waiting for pay day or such like?
I also do not like people looking down their noses at others

Some people don't think Christmas is all about presents. I know! Mind, blown.

I can't believe this shocked you.

I guess some people are so poor, all they have is money.

I reckon she gets a buzz out of doing all the shopping on one day where she can really feel like she is spoiling her kids rotten. Nothing wrong with that and if she gets it all done is it really an issue??

I'm silly organised and had presents bought and wrapped by the end of novemeber because I cannot tolerate busy shops but I know plenty of people who find that dull and boring because its not exactly festive!

And it isn't all about the presents for all kids you know, not all kids are that spoilt.

I think I'm probably always going to see this differently to many people due to being raised by a man.

Christmas Day was:

Stockings on the bed
Open (one) main present and a couple of little gifts.
Church (hated that!)
Roast dinner
Walk
Turkey sandwiches, aunt visited
Bed

Do you know what I remember?

I remember how lovely it was saying 'merry Christmas!'to everyone we passed on our walks, the stars on Christmas Eve and the smell of the Christmas tree.

It was so low key as to almost be non existent and it certainly won't have taken weeks of preparation.

Now, I completely understand why people like to make a 'thing' of Christmas and as I've got older, there are things about it I love that we never did when I was little - always go to a show, visit the Christmas markets, always go to a carol service - but don't pretend it's what makes or breaks good parenting.

Many fabulous parents for all sorts of reasons will have very quiet Christmases and many awful parents will bombard their children with gifts.

For my part, once any children I have are able to, I plan to go away skiing or to a cottage in the country.

Someone not doing things as you would is not a judgement on their parenting skills.

I do all my Christmas present and food shopping on Christmas eve, unless there is something I really have to get in advance. I can not be arsed with this Christmas shopping from August.

This started when my DCs were young. I had nowhere to hide presents so took Christmas Eve off, DCs at CMs as usual, and I got the stuff out the boot and wrapped when the kids went to bed. One hour for food shopping, two hours for presents. There were years where assembly was required that I regretted it... (lone parent and some things just need another pair of hands)

Still much prefer it this way than dragging it out for months.

Well I'm a SAHP- not a very good one if the ratings are based on 'organised present purchasing' I have two children and everything has arrived this week and I'm still waiting for two things for my son that will arrive tomorrow. You'd love me as I don't have any Christmas joint yet, not on order or vegetables or pudding. I am making a Christmas log and have some party food but this was only because I came across a local produce shop yesterday where I fancied the cheeses and pickles on offer. I don't think it's great but on the other hand I feel a bit lost over it all this year- like it's all a bit of an expensive performance and the point has been lost. I haven't been to church for years but I'm taking my two children to see the nativity tomorrow night and to sing carols as it feels a bit more genuine to me.

That's lovely swan

Why do you even care?! What the fuck has it got to do with you, you freak!

Was going to say much the same as this!!!
The kids are getting presents on Christmas Day who gives a shit when they arrive or are wrapped?
Get a fucking life...

Id be sweating 5 kids no presents wtf is that about although im going in tomorrow am to look for a few bargains im not wrapped either

Why is that strange? I haven't wrapped a single present for my kids. We do this on the day before Christmas Eve when the kids have gone to bed.

I dont wrap DC presents. They just go under the tree once they are asleep.

Unless I'm missing some pre requisite to date each gift with the date bought, ordered and wrapped then how the fuck will anyone know?

Or perhaps she knows you'll perform your own judge pants wedge and is winding you up? Or generally taking the piss out of all the people getting stressed?

Wow, the vipers are out in full force tonight. How very dare you question someone else's life choices. No-one does that one MN........ ever (uinless it's voting tory).

I'd be seriously pooping myself now if I hadn't had bought a single thing

So would I.

So would 95+% of MNers (mainly because their oh-so-moral highground is so far from a flush toilet).

Your OP scared the crap out of me because my RL name is SophieU AND I have a rep for being disorganised.

I thought my husband had come on here to make a point!!

But I don't have five kids and I did presents last weekend

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some people are so poor, all they have is money
THIS ^ in spades.
You can be a millionaire but still be poor in empathy.

• money doesn't stop anyone being a judgemental snobby twat.

I did that once manandbeast cant remember the thread but i used the name Katie to make my point a poster shit herself because her name was katie poor woman

Meh. I'd never do my Christmas shopping like that. I love choosing presents and spend time throughout the year doing it. Finding weird gifts for my DCs and DSCs gives me a buzz, and I would hate to go to the shops this near Christmas as I hate crowds.

But different people feel differently. Who cares really :o

Zed I'd be shitting myself if I had no presents by now. But that's because my DS has a specific hobby and asd and always just wants one thing that I get him to tell me in October and always source in November once I've confirmed through stealth it's what he wants.
But that doesn't mean I judge others by what they do or don't know on this case.

I think the OP is unreasonable because she judging this woman and saying she's wrong for leaving it and not fair on the children.

In fact my life is often consumed by DS rituals and routines I think if I could get away with it I'd scrap our Xmas eve routine and just go out alone that day and enjoy the challenge of seeing what I could get

Instead I have gifts for my parents bought 3 weeks ago that they specifically requested. I did ask! I do think this takes some of the fun and excitement of what's in a gift out of it! The most fun I've had is my best friend. We do a challenge every year, both work in education, and will not agree what we will do until term ends! This year it's a stocking, everything must fit in the stocking and be in the persons favourite colour. We set a £20 budget every year. I can't wait until she comes round tomorrow and we see what we've got each other - we get more and more stupid and inventive each year!

We used to do all our Christmas shopping on Christmas Eve, be in the shops as soon as they open and have finished it all by 11 at the latest, this was pre internet days. It was never very busy and there were lots of reductions.

My children have lovely memories of Christmas and yes they don't involve baking etc but they're still lovely.

Shock and horror, I haven't wrapped all my presents yet this year.

Oh won't someone think of the children?

Wind hour neck in, OP, she's not your friend.

If you're so bothered, call her and offer to help shop with her.

It's not a crime that she's not bothered by Christmas. YABU.