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Original poster

AIBU to not collect DH from the airport later

46 replies

chanelfreak · 21/12/2015 16:39

I need the wisdom of MNetters! - my DH was away visiting family at the weekend and is arriving back to an airport 2.5hrs from our house later on tonight. He doesn't drive and normally I collect him, meaning we get back to our house at around half past midnight.

However, I had my portacath rinsed today and I feel completely ill and wobbly after it (most squeamish woman on the planet) AND I have work tomorrow (DH does not) so AIBU to ask him to get a bus home instead? It would mean he doesn't get home til 3am, so I feel a bit a lot guilty for suggesting it.

OP posts:
BiddyPop · 21/12/2015 16:44

YANBU

Agrestic · 21/12/2015 16:45

Portacath?

I'm gunna say yanbu. But I'd do it as I'd want him to do it for me...

Dipankrispaneven · 21/12/2015 16:46

5 hours driving when you're feeling wobbly and have to work tomorrow? Fuck. That. The bus it is.

Original poster
chanelfreak · 21/12/2015 16:47

Sorry Agrestic it's a thingy that is under my skin in my chest that was used for chemo and is currently used for blood tests and that (crap veins). It needs to get flushed every 6 weeks and without fail, I always feel crappy afterwards.

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Supermanspants · 21/12/2015 16:48

YAB a bit U but I can understand why you don't want to. Are there even buses that run at that time?

PUGaLUGS · 21/12/2015 16:50

Under the circumstances you have described, he needs to get the bus.

DoreenLethal · 21/12/2015 16:50

Is there any train system running from the airport to anywhere near home?

theycallmemellojello · 21/12/2015 16:50

YANBU - would he even want you to pick him up in the circumstances? Have an early night. :)

Agrestic · 21/12/2015 16:51

Bless you, I winced as I read that. No wonder you're feeling poorly. I was imagining it was something dental Blush

Deffo yanbu! Go to bed with a Brew and he can hop on the bus.

Original poster
chanelfreak · 21/12/2015 16:56

Thanks ladies - I think I will ask him to get the bus. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I caused a crash or something and I really am feeling crappy Sad

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mintoil · 21/12/2015 17:02

What about a train? Or can he stay over in a hotel and come back in the morning?

If you feel shitty please do stay at home. Flowers

Gruntfuttock · 21/12/2015 17:05

I think him staying in a hotel for the night is a very good idea.

DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn · 21/12/2015 17:14

I think staying in a hotel is the best idea.

EweAreHere · 21/12/2015 17:37

You shouldn't be driving if you're feeling shaky and unwell.

Catching the bus is not a hardship.

yorkshapudding · 21/12/2015 17:40

It doesn't sound as though you would be safe to drive. I'm sure your DH would rather be inconvenienced and lose some sleep than have you putting yourself at risk. Ask him to get the bus (he can always catch up on sleep tomorrow if he's not working) or if he's really shattered stay in a hotel.

whois · 21/12/2015 18:41

is arriving back to an airport 2.5hrs from our house

5hour drive whne you feel wobbly? No fucking way.

He is an adult I assume, and perfectly capable of managing a bus, or staying over and getting a train home in the morning?

Can't believe you happily drive FIVE hours to pick him up normally TBH.

LaLyra · 21/12/2015 18:46

You shouldn't be driving when you feel wobbly. It's not fair on either or you, or anyone else on the road, to take that risk just to collect someone from an airport when there are bus options.

CalleighDoodle · 21/12/2015 18:48

Wouldnt it be against the law to drive knowingly unwell? (If it isnt go with that anyway).

Sirzy · 21/12/2015 18:50

Do you have any family or friends who could get him?

Otherwise the hotel suggestion is probably a good idea.

WhereYouLeftIt · 21/12/2015 19:02

"I feel completely ill and wobbly"
You are in no fit state to drive to the shops never mind a five hours round trip. I mean this kindly, but I really don't want you on the roads that I might be on - it's not safe!

And surely he wouldn't want you to drive in this state either?

bringmelaughter · 21/12/2015 19:04

Have you discussed with your medical team feeling unwell after having your portacath flushed? It's unusual for port flushing to make you feel unwell.

PestoFestivio · 21/12/2015 19:14

FFS he need to book a Premier Inn or equivalent for the night and then make his own way home the next morning. Sounds like you have really been through it and a 5 hour return trip, having to concentrate on all those nutty Christmas drivers is the very last thing you should be doing.

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TartanBirdFeeder · 21/12/2015 19:15

In the nicest possible way, you are being unreasonable really, I mean presumably you knew in advance that you'd be having your portacath rinsed today and that you had to work tomorrow. However, you are being understandably unreasonable. He should have booked a hotel or been prepared to get a bus.

expatinscotland · 21/12/2015 19:15

Don't drive!

PestoFestivio · 21/12/2015 19:16

Just refuse & explain why