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AIBU to be cross and think DP doesn't need to do this?

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MaybeAnOverthinker · 21/12/2015 12:19

Dp has his own office with his own computer, all up to date with Windows 10. I have used it on the odd occasion and made it very clear I am not a fan of windows 10.
We also have a family laptop that I use for work and the children use for homework. He uses it sometimes for quick things but not much.
He has warned me Hmm today that he will be updating the family laptop to windows 10 after Christmas. Apparently this is non-negotiable Hmm
Both myself and the dc have made it clear that we don't want this for various reasons. I am not a fan in general and one of Dd's programs doesn't run well on it (she's tried it on his computer).

AIBU to not want him to do this? Maybe it's just the stress of preparing for Christmas that's making me blow this out of proportion. I know It's petty but I hate being told he is just going to do it without discussion.

Anyone had any problems with windows 10? Maybe if I have some examples he'll listen to me a bit more!

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Anotherusername1 · 21/12/2015 14:32

YABU . Makes perfect sense to keep the family laptop up to date.

Windows 10 is not too everyone's taste. I have Windows 7 on mine and intend to keep it that way for as long as possible (not very long sadly as I believe Microsoft includes to do compulsory updates sometime next year). So I am gradually moving things over to Google Photos etc so that I don't lose anything when it happens.

I have a separate Windows 7 laptop for work.

My husband works in the office but occasionally works from home. If the laptop is updated, you can bet that his homeworking will no longer work and he'll spend hours on the phone to his work IT trying to sort it out.

My son has a convertible tablet/laptop which is on Windows 10.

OP, I agree with everyone who says put a password on it. However, I have no experience of Windows 8. It may well be that Windows 10 is a better option if you have Windows 8. But if it's running on Windows 7 TELL HIM TO LEAVE IT ALONE!

CalleighDoodle · 21/12/2015 14:35

My husband has soent mich of the weekend swearing at windows 10. I havent asked for specifics though. because he might actually start answering and im not that interested

knobblyknee · 21/12/2015 14:41

YANBU.
A laptop is not a desktop, they have smaller hard drives and less RAM, and they are much less well suited to Windows 10.
Plus its the machine other family members use so it should be their choice.
I have a high end gaming PC with 16 gig RAM and Windows 10 slowed it down. I rolled back to 7 from 10 after a week. Its a security nightmare, its advertising disguised as an OS. If I wanted adverts on my machine I'd install spyware.

I'm also still running my old XP computer offline with no issues. When Microsoft stops support for W7 I'm going to make mine dual boot and have Linux for web surfing.

YouTheCat · 21/12/2015 14:42

Argos has some pre Christmas deals on laptops with windows 8.

Or just put a password on your current laptop and tell him to bugger off.

YouTheCat · 21/12/2015 14:44

Dd is doing a degree in a computery type field and does not rate windows 10 at all.

Atenco · 21/12/2015 14:51

YABU . Makes perfect sense to keep the family laptop up to date

Why?
I still use Windows XP because I use my computer for my work and cannot be pissed with all the new operating systems. When this computer dies, I will have no choice, but why change for the sake of change.

So your husband "owns" both the family laptop and a desktop computer? There is something a bit out-of-kilter in your family.

Indantherene · 21/12/2015 15:07

I upgraded to Windows 10 because I hate Windows 8. I wish I hadn't. The internet connection just drops for no reason at all, anything up to 10 times an hour. When we checked, this is a known problem with Windows 10.

Plus the new screens don't make it at all easy to reconnect. (I have lost the side bar with a box that said reconnect).

I have had to buy a wifi booster and plug in the damn computer to the booster thingy just to keep it connected.

I do not recommend Windows 10 Angry

Anniegetyourgun · 21/12/2015 15:12

Yes, ours that has Windows 10 was updated because we bought it with 8, which was ghastly. Our older PCs have 7 and that's what we're not in a hurry to change. Windows 7 works. And it's a pleasant interface. The Win 10 start menu gives me gyp.

Jux · 21/12/2015 16:15

DH's switch to W10 meant that he lost the driver for the cd, rendering it useless. As he had his computer specially built to record and edit music and then make cds, it was a massive problem. There was no driver compatible with W10.

He paid someone to come and get W7 back on.

We have W10 on my laptop, and We have W10 at work. I like it, but that doesn't mean I would impose it on everyone else.

There will come a time when W7 and W8 are no longer supported though. You will have to think about what you will do then.

GarlicCake · 21/12/2015 16:29

i could look up everything she was doing from my laptop without her being any the wiser

Wow, abbs, I've just looked this up Shock It's well creepy.

Not only will DH potentially get detailed reports of everything you ever do, but Microsoft has admitted it stores this data whether you've got it turned on or off!

I do hope the spies are enjoying my tedious searches on any query that randomly occurs during the course of my boring day ... it's quite an unpleasant feature, though. 1984 and all that.

BlackeyedSusan · 21/12/2015 16:45

ex does not recommend windows 10 either. he works in IT

NinjaClaws · 21/12/2015 18:30

Let him do it but then buy yourself a MacBook and password protect it.
Problem solved. Xmas Grin

Theoretician · 21/12/2015 19:49

A laptop is not a desktop, they have smaller hard drives and less RAM, and they are much less well suited to Windows 10.

As far as I know, Windows 10 makes less demands on hardware the Windows 8 which in turn was faster than Windows 7.

Windows 10 is better than any previous version of windows.

I think all the people complaining in this thread are complaining about issues particular to them, they are not general Windows 10 problems. A major operating system upgrade always carries the risk of problems, but if you can sort any out, you end up in a better place. If you can't, I think you have a month to revert.

tibbawyrots · 21/12/2015 19:53

The rollback to 8 doesn't always work even when you're in the time that they tell you that you can rollback. Mine upgraded, through my choice, I didn't like it and tried to roll back about 2 hours later )than the upgrade) and it told me I was out of time tough. Saying that, I have got used to it and prefer it no issues with software or programs.

Theoretician · 21/12/2015 19:54

I have a high end gaming PC with 16 gig RAM and Windows 10 slowed it down.

Assuming you were previously running 8.1, 8, 7, Vista or 2000, that should not have happened, something particular to you was wrong.

Hassled · 21/12/2015 19:57

I really don't see that the merits or otherwise of Windows 10 is the issue. The issue is that Maybe's DP thinks he can do what the fuck he likes with a laptop that he does not usually use, regardless of what Maybe wants or feels. She's worried her reaction is petty - and no, it's not. Is this standard behaviour - does he usually just do what the fuck he wants regardless?

pointysettia · 21/12/2015 20:00

My 5yo laptop was killed by going to Win10 from Win7, but that was my fault for not upgrading the drivers first. It was dying anyway, so I replaced it with a Win8 laptop which I immediately upgraded to 10 - have had no trouble with it at all. I think if you have an older machine, you need to be very careful.

And of course it really isn't up to your H to make that decision unilaterally - very controlling.

Oldraver · 21/12/2015 20:04

You are seriously thinking of buying a new laptop rather than tell him not to twat around with your current one ? Get a grip woman

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 21/12/2015 20:13

New password, and refuse to give it to him.

Do your dc have their own users on the laptop? If not, create a new Administrator account, password protected, and make sure you remove administrator rights from all the other users on the machine, so he can't whip it out of your dd's hands when they are logged on, and install W10. Same applies if you do have separate users - make sure yours is the only Admin one.

Lightbulbon · 21/12/2015 20:15

What a controlling git!

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MaybeAnOverthinker · 21/12/2015 20:21

Oldraver oh believe me I have told him but it fell on deaf ears!

Once he makes his mind up about something he usually refuses to discuss it! because he's a bastard Hmm

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 21/12/2015 20:28

Take the battery out and hide the charger.

Inertia · 21/12/2015 20:50

OK it sounds like you have bigger problems than just a laptop.

Is he planning to monitor you more easily via your laptop usage and needs Windows 10 to do it?

Bobblehat10 · 21/12/2015 21:02

Knobblyknee and Atenco have hit the nail on the head here.

We're still running W7 if we must, but really like XP (which is wonderful)

No intention at all of putting W10 on it until we cannot manage without it.
Linux is also very good (as someone has mentioned), and much faster than the Windows shit. I love the Linux background / philosophy.

GarlicCake · 21/12/2015 21:04

Passive aggression is a valid assertiveness technique in certain situations.

"Let him do it, then buy a Mac" sounds like a decent plan.

How do you cope with your H acting like Lord of All He Surveys, May?