To tell my mother to FOTTFSOFO if she so much as mentions it

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I will be without my DC for the first time this Christmas, post separation. I'm thinking of going to my lovely DSis and family. My mother (many, many ishoos with our relationship)has already started with the ' it will be so sad for me to see you but not to see DC'.
She's not local, she never sees us, she's a nightmare.

I just think her saying it on Christmas day repeatedly might make me stabby wibbly and I need a plan.

Lucky escape MrsTP

My mother is terribly compassionate and would never talk in such away about strangers.

To me and my sisters? Not a snowflake of compassion.

Mum bingo definitely the way to go!

Sympathies about first Xmas without your kids. I am dreading my turn for that.

Thanks throwing.

I'm doing a pretty good job of pretending to myself like I don't give a fuck. I'm also busy inventing some new traditions for mummy Christmas.

' it will be so sad for me to see you but not to see DC'. It's occurred to me that the best response to this is, "It's sad to see you too..." then trail off.

Clearly don't do that, but it gave me a chuckle.

Yes, MrsTP clearly best to not do that....

Amic that might work if my mother a) Gave a shiny shit about how I feel and b) wasn't a malevolent force who would somehow turn her into the victim of that scenario.

I may, however, perform some sort of flounce and go and smoke cigars in the garden with my BIL

Maybe buy one of those klaxon things and let it off in her ear every time she mentions it? Then tell her to stop attention-seeking...

Ugh. Christmas would be so much easier if not for families...

Give her your exs address and send her round there. I am sure he will love having her visit to see them.

My sister is better at having gentle words MrsDV - I worry about her being a constant caretaker though.

Glib I actually totally love that idea....can I do that without ruinging the ambience do you reckon??

Sirzy I love you for that one....that would kind of kill two birds with one stone...

*ruining

You would need to find a way of getting his reaction when he opens the door filmed though, I am sure you wouldn't want to miss seeing that!

Sirzy

Although it would get added to the long list of things I have done wrong. Some of which I have done. But I am reaching my outer limit re how much longer I care to hear about them

YYY to the klaxon. Get a big bottle of Sambucca [or similar] and a shot glass each for you and DSis and then, every time DMum starts, fire the klaxon and down the hatch. Be sure to bang you glasses down on the table like it's some sort of drinking competition you're having with DSis. It'll be Boxing Day before you know it

Not is Sambucca ok with turkey??

My father will remain out of it all because he's a bit deaf, until he gets pissed has a few at which point he will become a bullying arsehole.

Oh, sorry, I didn't realise your mother was so awkward. (Just back as RL got in the way.) Apologies.

She sounds like a pain in the arse. I'd encourage her to say it somehow - say you like to talk about it - I reckon she'd shut up then.

No need for apologies mine - I appreciate that some people have actual normal human people for mothers!

Cold I haven't eaten turkey for 30 years [some time before I was old enough to drink lol] so couldn't possibly comment! Perhaps a decent bottle of Port or maybe even Brandy if you're feeling flush and wanted to keep it festive..?

Get her some gobstoppers for Christmas. The everlasting sort would be good.

Not there is something delightfully subversive about playing a mum drinking bingo game with PORT!

Can I accessorise with pieces of stilton?

I am feeling MUCH better about this shit...

Could you buy all the cheap,soft toys up from the local charity shops. Everytime she says it's sad you are there and not DGC you can pull one out and say "but we have Mr Ted/Donald duck" etc so don't be sad.

I wonder how many sift toys would have to join the party before she got the hint?

Youare - should I say it in a creepy cartoon voice?