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To be shocked that I have not been given prior warning about my son's truely awful report

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ReallyTired · 18/12/2015 22:36

My son is extremely clumsy, uncoordinated and disorganised. He is also sweet natured, well behaved, tries hard and most his teachers had positive comments. Even his PE teacher found something nice to say inspite of the fact that performs at key stage 1 standard in year 9. His PE teacher appreciates that he really struggles, but does his best. Sometimes chikdren cannot help being low ablity.

His school report is very brief and there are too columns one for aspects worthy of praise and one fir cause for concern. His food tech and geography teacher left the praise column blank and gave him awful marks for attitude to learning and attainment. They had no problem with writing negative comments.

I feel shocked that my child is really so awful that there is nothing praiseworthy about him. I am upset that I have not been told sooner.
What I don't understand is why these teachers have not used the school's consequence system to displine him or contacted me if my son is so vile.

A school report should not contain nasty surprises.

OP posts:
mumthetaxidriver · 19/12/2015 18:16

Lynda - Aeroflot is right I think - OP's son is only KS1 for PE. Other subjects he's fine.

ReallyTired · 19/12/2015 19:04

My son's PE skills are dire. He is not key stage 1 standard in other subjects. There is no academic delay. In fact he is very good at maths and science. He struggles with art, PE, dance, technology. He is ok at other subjects although his general organisation is terrible. His handwriting is illegible.

York, your opinion fits in with advice from our GP. He has been told that the option of assessment is open to him in the future if he changes his mind.

OP posts:
TeenAndTween · 19/12/2015 19:36

I would really push him to go for another assessment.

DD was assessed with dyspraxia in y11, sounds very much like your son.

On the back of it she got:

  • extra time in exams
  • stand and stretch in exams
  • more understanding from teachers
(already had use of laptop.

I honestly believe DD would not have passed her English GCSE without the extra support she got once diagnosed.

I wish we had had the assessment earlier. Although I had long suspected, I hadn't realised the extent of DD's difficulties. Reading the report both confirmed my view but also opened my eyes in some areas.

There is no down side to being assessed. Personally I would consider bribing your DS to get him to agree.

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