Would you say anything ?

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It came up in conversation yesterday that my nephew will not be taking part in his school nativity because it's past his bedtime. He's seven years old. This came directly from SIL and at the time I made a goldfish face but was too flabbergasted to say what I wanted.

Should I push this with her? It just seems like she's setting him up for a lifetime of being others and ridiculed by his peers. I'm sure that one 9pm bedtime won't harm him fgs and the while rest of his class will be taking part.

More a wwyd than an AIBU I suppose, but do you think I should try and talk to her about this or just mind my own business?

It's a shame - poor little boy

DD7 usually has assemblies and plays during the day time and I miss out on them. This week they did a carol service that finished at 7pm, and it was so lovely to be able to see DD sing. Wouldn't SIL like to see her DS perform?

She's being ridiculous. If you're close to her then I'd say something, for your nephew's sake.

Sorry just seen she has anxiety issues. But I think that makes it more important that someone intervenes. Otherwise she'll keep doing things like this and her little boy will be totally over protected.

But its not the kid's fault. Why does he have to suffer?

Because no one in their right mind would take him from the care of someone who loves him and looks after him well, on the basis of a decision such as this one.

So really, yes, he does have to 'suck it up' because there isn't an alternative, unless his parents change their minds, and I don't think the OP is going to make them do that by 'saying something'.

Otherwise she'll keep doing things like this and her little boy will be totally over protected.

Yikes - that's quite an assumption to make based on this one incident, isn't it?

We have very little information and I think that some of the responses are very OTT.

I mean it isn't like she is preventing him from having medical care, or starving him, or making him wear ridiculous clothes or something. It's only one Christmas play. It's not something he's going to take with him into adulthood as the cause of all his problems.

It may be part of a larger pattern, of course, but as an isolated incident I wouldn't be freaking out just yet about his emotional health.

*Because no one in their right mind would take him from the care of someone who loves him and looks after him well, on the basis of a decision such as this one.

So really, yes, he does have to 'suck it up' because there isn't an alternative, unless his parents change their minds, and I don't think the OP is going to make them do that by 'saying something'.*

Nobody says take him into care, but somebody should kick some sense into her. Its a school play, not a rock concert.
My own mother was a bit like this. I was not allowed many activities (after-school clubs) because she thought its unsuitable, i'm too little, something will happen, i can go without -- i mean stuff like scouts, karate, swimming, arts&crafts, etc.
I really wish somebody would have said "something", like get your head out of your backside. No, i didn't die without scouts or karate, but still i don't see why i couldn't have had that.

Why the fuck is the performance so late?

I understand that Nataleejah but I think that's between you and your Mum. It's very possible that someone did say something and it made not a blind bit of difference.

And I think this is also between the little boy and his Mum. Making a gentle suggestion that he might enjoy it, it might not do him any harm etc is one thing, but that's about as far as I'd take it.

Thats why i think OP should certainly say something. Not in aggressive way but to make a point -- look, you are wrong here.