to think this is ridiculous Christmas card etiquette ?

[rubymallorywhite]

I don't really do Christmas cards,
The odd one to far flung relatives & close family.

Picked my daughter up today from nursery & the nursery assistant is oh don't forget this...

To L,
Love H

My eyes nearly fell out my head.

She's 2.5!!!!

Nursery girl says well I can give you a list of them all, or the ones L plays with most (can't just single some out?)
Me: How many are there ?
Nursery girl: over 30
Me: is it not a ballache handing them out ?
Nursery girl: We'll just pop them in trays.

AIBU to think this is fucking insane writing out over 30 Christmas cards to TODDLERS?

Fair doos when they're in a class of school chums but TODDLERS.

I'll get her to make one for the whole class... One... To them all,
At a push.

Holy festive fuckballs.

Ah don't they have a red cardboard postbox with cottonwool snow and a robin? Meanies

Still, stop being a baffled old grinch and let her join in

The last couple of years our primary has moved from a postbox and school card delivery system to suggesting children write one card to their class and bring in something for a foodbank collection. Cheaper, easier, means there are still cards to display, does something for a good cause and gets round having to sort piles of cards out each day. Win all round I think.

I write Xmas cards because I enjoy receiving them, and I think it's just a little hello at a time of year when there is just not time to catch up with everyone.

Dd (almost 4) is a mini me, she wrote nearly 30 cards for children in her nursery class, it did take ages but she has a good attention span and loved being able to take them in to nursery for her friends. She has been over the moon with the few she has had in return.

I like to make the effort, whether it is appreciated or not. I don't really like to think that people relieved my dd's card and thought that's ridiculous, I think that's quite rude.

relieved = received

privatepike, Ruby, totally off topic, but I thought you might this if you haven't already heard it.

When I was a medical student, the joke was that there was 5 states of being well/unwell:

Affa weel
Weel
Nae weel
Nae affa weel
Affa nae weel

Nah, don't bother at nursery. A toddler won't give a monkeys about a card they didn't get. My dd is the only one who does Christmas cards in this house. I give a gift to close family and a hug to friends at our little Christmas gatherings. Not bothered about getting any so it works for us. I love Christmas, but to me it's all about family.

Slightly different topic i know, but all this Christmas card malarky reminds me of the way my soon to ex sister in law used to be. My niece's birthday is on 28 December, and much is made of it! All signs of Christmas banned, so that she doesn't feel as if her birthday is being over shadowed by Christmas etc. Anyway, my niece was coming up to her seventeenth birthday, and MIL was due to stay with them for the Christmas break. She offered to said present as they live overseas and we wouldn't be seeing them. Unfortunately, I committed the unspeakable crime of wrapping the present in semi Christmas paper. Didn't matter that the present inside was rather nice;[Molton Brown stuff] and had obviously cost money. Nothing like being grateful for what you receive etc. I was absolutely pilloried for not wrapping the present in BIRTHDAY paper! SIL gave MIL such a hard time for it. Too much of a coward to speak to me though. She even "lost" the birthday card that I had sent, only to produce it after MIL had had a sleepless night, and nigh on a nervous breakdown over it all.
I kid you not, unbelievable. As I have said, soon to be ex sister in law!!!

Just give a card to anyone who gives you one. That's what I'd do if I couldn't be bothered. I agree it is a bit mad though.

My ds was 3 in August and was thrilled to bits when he received cards from his class mates. I bought some little cards for about a pound and wrote them myself for about 28 children/teachers. I was a bit when he got one from a little boy who had hand written the envelopes as well as the cards. For 26 children ds can just about do his 4 letter name let alone 26 other children's names!!

I think it's sweet too! I asked my youngest DS to tell me who he wants to do cards for last week (he's nearly 4). He gave me a list, not too many names actually. I dutifully write them out and he added kisses to each.

Took them to nursery to hand out...... 2 got sent back to me with a message saying "we don't have a Nessa or Francesca" at nursery! I don't know anyone with those names so I asked DS3 who they were. Apparently he met Nessa in the trees in the jungle and Francesca at her house. Well that clears that up son! I do appreciate wasting time and money on cards for children that don't exist.

I think it's nice for them, DD always loved opening Christmas cards in preschool. I put finger lights in each child's card in preschool and then at school Christmas themed colouring pens and mini Christmas colouring books (yes, I am that parent).

Not read all the replies, but ohhhh - it's the way things are. Get used to it.
Yes, I agree it's an absolute ballache writing out all the cards if your smallest isn't even 3 years old yet and can't do it themselves.
It's good practise for when they get to reception aged 4 to 5 and it's the done thing there too!

DD2 (4) sent one to everyone and loved opening her cards from her preschool on Friday. Granted she gave out more than she received but was delighted to count all her cards and look at the pictures.

That gave me a massive chuckle
"Nae affa weel"

She's 2.5

When she knows how to write her own name she can write & send as many Christmas cards as she likes!

I've just never done it. DC are at school now - if they want to write Christmas cards, they can feel free, it's their responsibility!

One year, I helped my DC make hand made cards for all their friends. I have three DC, and they had 20-odd classmates each, so it would've been between 70 and 80 cards, altogether.

I must've been mad!