AIBU to think this is part of being a parent.

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DD is 16, she has two jobs (as well as 6th form) and tonight is one of those jobs Christmas Meal. They are paying for it, she's quite looking forward to it and I am quite proud of how hard she works.

She normally gets the bus to work as its a 20 min drive (1 hour bus journey) and in the middle of nowhere.

She asked me a few days ago if I would collect her from the meal at 10.30 tonight and she would get the bus there, which I agreed as would prefer to drive her as its late and dark and in a country village.

I texted OH (working away not DDs dad) having a bit of a moan about having to go out and get her later and he said tell her to get a cab or give you petrol money. I was a bit as I figure while I might grumble about it giving lifts like this occasionally is part and parcel of being a parent.

I think my pissed offness is compounded by the fact that he is currently banned from driving and I have been spending a considerable amount of my time driving him around so he can see his DDs

Yeah I guess I should have said AIBU to think OH was a total mean arse for suggesting that she gets home under her own steam even though I really want to just get in from work and hibernate but yes PP you are right he always gives "solution focussed" answers to letting off steam

Then OP, perhaps you need preface any whinge with "The following requires sympathy, not a solution...."

Well did he just chit chat back "she could get a cab, or at least get petrol money from her!" in which case YABVU complaining about chat.

Or did he say "you shouldn't have to do that, she takes the piss, tell her to get a cab or at the very least make sure the entitled little madam pays your petrol"?

In which case, YANBU.

And YANBU settling she's awesome and very sweet

"AIBU to think OH was a total mean arse for suggesting that she gets home under her own steam even though I really want to just get in from work and hibernate"

Eh? Thats makes even less sense and shows even more clearly YABU...

Hope your DD enjoyed her night out.

YANBU, but maybe OH was trying to be supportive if you texted him to have a moan about it. I, too, am "solution focussed'.