To take £60 of ds Christmas/ birthday money to pay for a new PE kit

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Ds almost aged 14 has lost his entire PE kit for the third time. Excluding the cost of trainers, the bag, the PE top, shorts, socks with cost about £60 to replace. I am furious because he spun me a lie that it was in his locker for two weeks. He had had detentions from his PE teacher as well. I don't think he had made enough effort to find his kit.

I have had enough and I feel he needs to suffer the consequences of his inability to look after his belongs. He needs to realise what is belongings cost to replace.

I have a Yr9 DS like this. Conversely his twin, who has learning difficulties, never loses anything!

I would go into Student Services and look in LP yourself. Many a time I've found something that DS didn't because he didn't look properly or told me he had when he hadn't as he knew he would get a bollocking for not looking!

It may not have been taken maliciously. It may have been found left in the changing rooms and been put to the side somewhere until someone remembers to take it down to lost property. This has happened with DS's stuff so many times, the items turn up months later sometimes , so I can only assume that's what happens. He has lost 2 x complete PE kits including bag, football boots (about 3 pairs), school shoes, coats, swimming kits, planners, locker keys .

The thing is your DS has not got his Christmas money yet and he needs a kit now so I would keep that separate (don't agree with taking away Christmas stuff anyway) and either he forgoes his pocket money or has a specific additional chore list to keep up until the cost of the PE kit is 'repaid'.

I would certainly forgo games for his new XBox (well maybe just a cheap one!). He can get more when his pocket money restarts.

Ds son's PE teacher has suggested by email that he wears his old primary school PE kit until the end of term. That is a gloriously evil idea, but unfortunately his old primary PE kit is way too small.

But it will be cheaper to buy in his size . Do it, or at least threaten to. He might just find one of the three lost kits.

I have a son like this and, with him it was a case of carelessness. His memory suddenly improved overnight when I made him pay for the replacements.

Yes, where do all the kits go?!

DS (lost his twice). The first time I marched into school with him to look for it together. Embarrassing!!! but we found it in the corner under a desk somewhere.

He also lost his bus pass (£25 admin fee , which I paid...

Second time he lost his bag: he has spare top/short from last year (bit small, but hey) and bought new trainers out if his pocket money. So he now has crap trainers.

If he wants Nikes again he will have to save up.

He gets £5 a week, so I feel I can make him pay for things. Next bus pass or PE kit is at his cost.

It's crazy!

Ask the school when the uniform prices where last checked as apparently while they can enforce the uniform they should be checking that they are getting the best price for the kit. £60 is still a bit steep