would it be unreasonable to tell my son he cant go on cadets meal...

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right im really on the fence about this. so if a reasonable amout of people says im unreasonable i will find a way of letting him go..

things i have paid out for my 14 year old son... new school shoes were 20.00. new coat for school 25.00. pe track bottoms.10.00. for cadets. camping.. 10.00 for the trip. 30.00 for rucksack he had to have.. 10.00 spending money. 15.00 sleeping bag. underwear/bathroom things were about 20.00 in all.

now with cadets theres going to be a meal out. he has to have a suit which will cost me 45-50 in all on top of that 18.00 for the meal. i googled the restaurant and its a pizza place.

so would i be unreasonable to tell him he cant go or should i find a way? if it was not close to xmas i would not even question it buts theres alot of money to pay out.

Silly question but why spend ages asking on here and getting worried when you could pick up the phone and ask someone what is really required?

Sorry, I meant bone as in waste of time!

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OP, ds' one has been extremely security conscious recently. It is top of their priorities. Trips are sometimes to bases (and extra precautions then apply) or sometimes to civilian centres in which case the risk is no higher than anywhere else - ie very very low. It is a very different world, got ots own language and culture, and things are not explained in the way a "normal" school trip would be - that is one reason the dc love it I think but you should ask anything you want!

We used to have a Dining In Night in a Hotel function rooms which was the same as a formal military meal so we had that experience. We wore evening attire, members of the RAF/Staff either wore Dress uniform or Tuxedos, lots of important members of military / community came we had toast masters, speeches and Awards were given out.

It sounds like they are trying to do the same sort of thing but at ASK, have they hired the restaurant out perhaps?

I would recommend talking to the the staff at the Unit, the older boys might have jackets left over from previous evenings etc and school trousers, shirt and a tie would be appropriate. I'd recommend NOT sending him in military uniform unless he is asked to, it is a security risk.

Oops didn't see the second page, glad you're sorted.

I went to Gibraltar in Cadets it was AMAZiNG. Let him apply for Germany, if it's ATC the applications then go to Wing and then they choose the cadets out of their area say about 40 places for a whole Wing so no guarantee he'll get a place this time but they'll know he is interested.

madness. I was air cadet for years - all uniform was free inc dress, they only paid for shoes. Never had a meal out, we had Xmas disco at local army cadet hall with dj and buffet provided by parents. Trips we fund raised for and had a large supply of loan equipment like rucksacks, bivi bags, sleeping bags.

thank you everyone. no cadets now till the new year :) i will ask him about germany its along way for a kid thats not really stayed away from home before. would be nice for him though. he really enjoyed the meal out last night he said hes making new friends and growing in confidence.

That's great, OP!