WIBU to have asked this couple to move?

[LondonStill83]

Not too serious but a very odd situation...

DH and I had grabbed some food at a local food market, then walked down to the river to eat it. By the river there are these long cement walls, about waist height, which form the walls of the garden iyswim? Everyone sits on them and eats their food, lounges around, etc.

Anyway yesterday wasn't super busy surprisingly. There was a long wall (I would say about half a kilometre long?) and only us and another couple on it. So there was TONS of space for others to come and sit, eat, etc.

Then this lady comes up and sets her coffee down about a foot away from my thigh. I thought it was odd that she chose to do it so close, it was kind of like an empty bus and the person still chooses to sit next to you? Anyway she fumbled with her coffee up for a while and hen was joined by a man. They both fumbled around for a while, then she puts her bag right next to me (touching my thigh), pulls out a cigarette, and lights up!

Literally about five inches from my face whilst I was eating!!! The guy she was with did the same.

So I asked her if she would mind moving down as she was smoking right in my face whilst I was trying to eat.

She glared at me, so did the guy, for a few seconds before grudgingly moving about two feet down.

Why? Why on earth would you rock up next to someone who is eating, sit directly next to them, and light up a fag? I wasn't even sitting that close to DH!!!

So WIBU to ask her to move, and to be annoyed that her continual glares put a dampener on our lovely lunch???

There are so many people that do this though! How many times have we sat on almost-empty trains/buses or in empty cinemas and someone has come and sat right next to us!

I cannot understand this... I wonder sometimes if there are two types of people - those who like personal space and those who get comfort from being close to other people at all times.

Some funny stories-

Poor couple who wanted some newlywed privacy and had their island invaded!

Also the m & s lunch, how odd!

I was once asked to move tables in a cafe because I had chosen a table next to a mum who had a sleeping baby and she didn't want her baby woken up. They weren't at my table, but at the table beside mine, with space between us, In a cafe. I got up to move because I thought she may have been desperate for a quiet break with a sleeping baby, but realised there were no other tables so sat back down and apologies. I wasn't even WITH anyone so I wasn't talking.

She glared at me the whole time. Why? I would have moved, it was a busy and noisy cafe anyway so her baby could potentially have been woken by any number of noises, I was alone and therefore quiet, and she could clearly see there were no other tables.

I do think some people are just odd, or as a precious poster said, so wedded to their own routine that they don't notice their surroundings all that much.

To those who say I am dwelling / not being sensitive to other world disasters... Really, it was just an odd situation which led to a humorous anecdote. I am not left awake at night worrying about it not am I under any disillusions that this was some kind of traumatizing experience I need cuddles over. It was just odd.

We know you are not 'dwelling' on the situation OP, god knows why PP said that. Bit dramatic

FWIW for those who are interested, after me and DH left the island that our rude guest had invaded, we approached a rapid which was so bad I refused to paddle down.

We had to get out of the canoe, drag it to shore (shallow river, thank god) drag it along the side of the river and past the rapid.

DH was annoyed that I wouldn't go down it, I was furious because the canoe was bloody heavy carrying on our heads and it was hot, we had a massive row and vowed never to go canoeing again together ever!

Slightly off the point but I often wonder when a bus or train has been chocka blocked and people sat right up next to each other, when loads of people get off, those in the aisle seats don't spread out a bit?

I really don't understand posters who assume that if you post about something on here it is the most serious and compelling thing going on in your mind/life at the moment.
It's a bloody chat forum, not the Samaritans!

Ooh, I hate that situation, angelos ,when the bus empties out and you are still squeezed in next to a complete stranger.

I desperately want to move away and get my personal space back, but worry they might take it as a hideous insult in some way. "Are you saying I smell?!"

Daisysbear

Exactly! Why don't people just lighten up?

YANBU - not at all. Anyone who thinks that it's OK to pitch up right next to someone and light a fag has had too brain cells destroyed by the chemicals they inhale.