To find christmas work parties a bit sleazy. . .

[hilzypop]

Do you? I happy to be shouted down on this but I am starting to wonder. . .I have been to a few of these bring a party to a party things and a few work leaving doos and I find everyone gets a bit carried away. Men who I usually like and respect start to get a bit over friendly and give me the creeps by being a bit touchy feely or a bit personal. Then there is the dancing- two members of staff basically simulated a sex act on the dance floor- the sleazy music that was being played didnt help we had getting giggy with it sex bomb sex is on fire do u think Im sexy! Im no prude but its a bit cringe! I've also been to a party where u had to play games like pass the balloon etc which all got a bit ick as well. I love the chance to socialise with work people but it always gets weird, I see it as an extension of work in a way and wouldnt want to get too pissed and do someting I regretted!

I worked in libraries for many years.

At one Christmas do a bloke started to go on about " when you pay prostitutes"

At another two of the women librarians had an actual fight on the floor of a pub over a man

Self employed now so don't do Christmas parties now. I spent a long time working in large businesses. IME it was always what we referred to as the "usual suspects". It was always the same men/women that always seemed to end up in compromising or embarrassing and downright sleazy sutations.

There were always rumours and gossip after every Christmas party (who slept with who! who was been sleazy T&C,m etc.)

Here's a look at one of our competitors (when I worked in the industry) employees after a works party. This went viral. Talk about caught in the act. This happened abroad but definitely would not have been surprising had it been my old employers offices in the UK!

(Message from MNHQ - sorry to be spoilsports but we think we'd best remove this video link)

He was married by the way.

Sorry if breaking guidelines MNHQ. Didn't think before posting.

Freeworker just read your post regards the escorts. Did you ever read the scandal about the Munich Re party in Budapest back in 2007. Again no one I knew in the industry was that shocked.

Princess - I cant remember the Munich Re one but nothing that happens at Xmas parties (or indeed any other time of year) in the finance industry would be a surprise.

In the interests of fairness - the "Munich Re" party was held by a company who were subsequently taken over by Munich Re.

But yes, it set an all time benchmark for its combination of jawdropping moral depravity and stereotypical Teutonic organisation. It is alleged and I think never disproved, that the prostitutes provided had to wear coloured wrist bands to signify who was allowed to use them - whether they were fair game for all or reserved for upper management only.

Wow, Princess, your link got removed by Mumsnet HQ!

Respect.

Freeworker. Totally agree. Top, down.... Nothing but nothing is surprising! I have seen it all. It's still common practice for certain brokers to close deals over drinks in a pub or strip club and still manage to put their "drinks" expenses in. Nothing really shocks me anymore!

Anyone yes that's the party and yes allegedly there was a hierarchy with regards the girls. It was a long time ago but I think white ribbons/bands were the reserved for senior staff. I would have to look up articles!

toffee I reported my own link. I wanted MN to check it out because realised after posting, I had posted the uncut version. If you want, I can't share a link but happy to give you a path to the video but I must warn you although blurred it's graphic!

YouGotta Christchurch? That's the couple. He was married and I think she was newly engaged. Everyone in the pub across the road saw the whole thing. Apparently the band stopped playing whilst everyone watched what was happening.. Grim!

Ours is a sedate lunch but I'm still not going!

I like most of my work colleagues but don't want to spend my own time and money socialising with them!!

It's wrong but I kinda wish I'd seen that link

some of the stories on here are funny, ive only been to one xmas party which was a sit down dinner with speeches it was so boring

yanbu

Our christmas party usually involves the older always the older men spending most of the evening chasing and sleazing over any young women who happen to be there.
Its pathetic and embarrasing to watch.

Ok so I know I was th OP moaning but I have been quietly enjoying all these awful stories of sleaze and disgraceful behaviour but the question is dear readers AIBU to ask someone to start a new thread requesting the best (most debauched) christmas office party stories princessmouse? Freeworker?!

We have a picnic in the park with lovely food and v little or no alcohol.. Very tame! I certainly couldn't imagine doing shots or dirty dancing with my colleagues hahaha

I agree - ghastly things unless you have a really good team.

I once worked somewhere amazing and at Christmas we all went to the cinema in the morning then had a few bottles of wine nobody was sleazy and it was lovely but otherwise a bit forced.

DH's are the worst, no sleaze but they pay for themselves and their partner - it is usually expensive but is a bit like a school dinner with too bright lights and weirdos who aren't too good at small talk.

I have a story but it's not a Christmas party, it was our wedding.

We invited colleagues/partners to the evening do (probably 2/3rds of the do was work colleagues), and one woman arrived with the sole intention of copping off with one of the uni students who was finishing his years work experience that month (pretty hard as she brought her husband with her).

So while her husband was bopping along on the dance floor, she was giving said student a blow job in the ladies loos, only for one of the (adult) bridesmaids to walk in and catch them at it.

The bridesmaid walked straight out and exclaimed in a loud voice exactly what was occurring so pretty much the whole room knew (including DH's 80 yr old nan). Even now (nearly 20 years on) whenever our wedding is mentioned the thing people remember is the couple having it off in the loos.

The woman spent the next few months denying everything only to actually apologise to DH about 6 months later.

As far as I know her husband never found out

raptor!

Weddings are great for bad behaviour. We had a very very small low key wedding and just went for a meal afterwards. We deliberately didn't have speeches, didn't have a best man or bridesmaids etc. Unfortunately one of DH's brothers got absolutely leathered and stood up, swaying, in the middle of the meal to make an impromptu drunken speech where the highlight was him spilling a glass of wine over his GF's head. I didn't like the GF so this was brilliant

Hilzy I haven't even mentioned the PA to a well known Broker MD has appeared in numerous Insurance Times articles who apparently never returned to her job after making a complete sleazy fool of herself at an Institute Dinner.

I went to a colleague's wedding with another colleague and agreed to share a room.

Colleague proceeded to get as drunk as you can get, generally berate the room full of guests, cry and deliberately swear at the bride's great-grandmother (all guests had been asked to refrain from using bad language in front of her), before I dragged her back to our accommodation to sleep it off.

Unfortunately for me, she snuck out of the room when I was in the bathroom, somehow managed to find and hook up with a married guest, brought him back to the room to do coke, offered a threesome and when I declined, proceeded to have sex with him, with me trying to work out where I could go for refuge at 3am in the middle of a farm/pub/B&B.

Then had a 4 hour drive home with her the next morning.

MrsBert OMG... I shouldn't laugh but I can't help it. What a nightmare...

This thread on classics is amazing. Worst behaviour seen at a wedding: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/1008339-Worst-behaviour-seen-at-a-wedding

I love my workmates but have no wish to go out and socialise with them. I spend enough time with them as it is.

I find it cringey rather than sleazy. Pretending you're interested in people's lives around a table of cold turkey and over cooked veg before we "boogey" on the dance floor. so this year most of my team have said no to wider team night and are going to a gay bar for some dancing and drinks and my husband has the 2 DC the full next day...hurrah!