To think DP is being unreasonable

[winterswan]

I have arranged to see a friend next weekend and this is booked (flights etc) and mostly paid for. I am staying with her so no expense there but I will take flowers/wine etc.

There is some work that needs doing in our home and DP thinks that because this is expensive I should forgo my weekend away. He keeps bringing this up repeatedly and it's very awkward as I feel I have committed to seeing not only my friend but my little goddaughter and I won't see them until spring 2016 otherwise.

I'm not being unreasonable I don't think - can you give me your honest view? I'm being made to feel really selfish here for going.

The fact that it is only you who is being guilt tripped and having to make all the savings and compromises are massive red flags. I agree they are signs of financial abuse which you should look up.
So if you are so broke that you can't afford to visit your goddaughter what does he do with the money he no longer has to pay for a mortgage or rent?

We are not broke. We both have a good salary coming in every month but for all sorts of reasons, not least the enormous costs of fertility treatment, we can't just afford a new kitchen without getting into debt and I am actually really annoyed at being told we can't afford to have a baby because we don't happen to have £1000 sitting there right now.

He's being an arse. I would be very happy to explain in great detail why he's being an arse and if he continues to sulk I would sell his tickets. Because obviously having the money now is more important....

He sounds like a knob. No-one over the age of 20 should 'worship' a band. You can be a fan, but really a concert is not that important!

I agree with you, but I think he wants to relive his lost youth, or something!

He has since apologised and as I thought was stressed about fertility treatment. I have said that if we can't try in spring, then we wait until summer. The clinic will still be there.

Glad it's all squared away, have a great time!