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AIBU to not pay for the slice of cake?

233 replies

bananafish · 03/12/2015 18:13

This isn't a big deal, really, but I'm somewhat bemused, so here goes.

So, we had a bake sale at work to raise money for a local charity before Christmas.

I baked a carrot cake with cream cheese frosting. New recipe, newish oven. It looked good when I put it out, but I was a wee bit nervous it might taste horrible, so I cut a small slice to test it.

The woman who organised the bake sale smiled at me and said: "That will be £1.50, please."

I smiled back and said nothing, as I assumed she was joking. She wasn't; she asked for the money again.

I said that I was just making sure it was OK and I didn't think I needed to pay for the slice of cake? She tutted that it was "bad form", and walked away with her nose in the air.

I appreciate we were raising funds but that's a bit weird, isn't it? Or should I have coughed up?

OP posts:
QuintShhhhhh · 03/12/2015 20:42

I have brought cake to many a bake sale, and NEVER helped myself to a slice or cupcake without paying for it, when "tasting my cake is ok".

Crazypetlady · 03/12/2015 20:55

YANBU she was a jobsworth and totally unreasonable. If you wantnto taste a cake you made so what.You were doing a good deed by donating I don't see how anybody can call you unreasonable.

ClancyMoped · 03/12/2015 21:00

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I'm pretty certain that the OP was NBU but I wonder just how big that 'small slice' was. Hmm

AIBU to not pay for the slice of cake?
redredblue · 03/12/2015 21:00

Yanbu
You need to see if it's good
I would have cut it into slices and arranged it so it didn't look like there was any missing

GinThief · 03/12/2015 21:05

I am relieved to see comments on price of cake slice. DP came home from work in shock that the charity cake sale was charging £5 for a slice of cake Shock I want a whole cake for that

Back to your question, YANBU it was your cake

BathshebaDarkstone · 03/12/2015 21:05

YANBU, by the way. Grin

Sharoncatastrophe · 03/12/2015 21:08

You can take back a charity donation.

Well of course you can, I mean in practise who is actually going to stop you? But you can also take it back anyway. No idea why people
Think you couldn't.

GwynethPaltrowIamNot · 03/12/2015 21:10

You donated it / gave it / offered it with the intention of not receiving any payment for it
You then decided to help yourself afterwards to test it ?
We all know that it will always cost more money to make than is made at these events but it's the raising awareness that counts
Agree with the organiser very bad form and extremely bad manners

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 03/12/2015 21:13

£5 for a slice of home-made cake! What was it made of, powdered gold?

Shock Shock Shock

PrimalLass · 03/12/2015 21:14

But I wouldn't call it stealing, I would say it's poor form

Why? If she has spent time and probably lots of money making it, then how is it 'bad form' to taste a sliver.

Crazypetlady · 03/12/2015 21:22

Bad manners really? Bad manners would have been slicing big chunks of everyones cakes to test, she didn't she tested the one she made. It really wasn't a bad thing to do.

BrianButterfield · 03/12/2015 21:24

If it's the raising awareness that counts, surely 11/12 of a cake raises as much awareness as a full cake? Or do only uncut cakes raise awareness?

PrimalLass · 03/12/2015 21:28

It's totally weird to hand over the cake and later on, when it's on the stall decide you want to test it to make sure it isn't poisonous tastes ok.
Bake a square one next time

I don't think that's what the OP said Confused

TendonQueen · 03/12/2015 21:31

1.50 may be less than Costa, but it's still pricey for a cake sale. All the ones I go to would be 50p -.1.00. And it seems churlish to charge someone for the cake they made. Plus it's better to have a slice cut out. As a pp said people don't want to ask for an untouched cake.

EastMidsMummy · 03/12/2015 21:39

I am astonished that people resent giving £1.50 to charity, especially when they're also getting a free slice of cake.

Also, who the hell takes back a slice of cake "to check it's OK."??

GwynethPaltrowIamNot · 03/12/2015 21:39

Yes it is bad manners , if you DONATED a , let's say a prize for a charity auction and it didn't make as much as it sold for , It has still raised an interest in that charity , people would come to future events etc
It may cost the contributor money , but not the charity
I can't believe some people are so self centred

Sharoncatastrophe · 03/12/2015 21:46

Gwyneth you're hysterical Grin

Bad manners would be to lick the icing and put it back

Floggingmolly · 03/12/2015 21:47

Isn't it, PrimalLass? I understood the cake was out on the stall when she took a slice; if it wasn't I've been seriously misled (and so have most of the posters on the thread).

lorelei9 · 03/12/2015 21:48

Add me to the bemused group
It's your cake and you were just checking ffs!

Fizrim · 03/12/2015 21:49

Why didn't you test it at home? No way would I eat a cake I'd provided for a sale off the sale table!

Sharoncatastrophe · 03/12/2015 21:52

Sometimes people have busy days and things get missed because they're fucking around baking cakes for ungrateful charity twats

GwynethPaltrowIamNot · 03/12/2015 21:55

nah sharon nobody would know Grin

Johnny5isAlive · 03/12/2015 22:00

primallass I believe that's exactly what the op was saying Confused

whatever22 · 03/12/2015 22:24

The op said it was when she was setting the cake up on the stall. I.e, put it on table, unwrap the cake, taste a bit, make sure it looks OK, then walk away kind of situation.

Not that she handed the cake over then came back hours later during the selling to eat some.

TheFlyingFauxPas · 03/12/2015 22:25

Me and my mum have often baked for scouts, school, cubs etc. We like to contribute but we're all a bit funny about eating other people's stuff. The number of times we've paid a daft amount to buy and eat our own stuff so we contribute to the cause. If I was testing for quality however I would not expect to pay I use that excuse aaaa hell of a lot though, kids' sweets, calved slices of meat, other people's chips etc but then I'm a right greedy cow - with a cake it's a bit different - you can't really hand it over half eaten can you - I can see why you took it in whole!