AIBU to be fedup with the attitudes of my colleagues towards my pregnancy?

[badgerpillow]

HR and my line manager have been really accommodating but my colleagues attitudes to my pregnancy have really started to p* me off.

I've deliberately saved my holidays so I could take the majority of them at the end of the year and I used two days holiday for my first scan and booking appointment. I normally wait till days off for dentist or doctor's appointments even though they seem to have appointments quite regularly and I've had one day off sick this year which is a lot less than they've had!

I had one colleague tell me that it's not fair that I get a year of maternity leave and another seems to be under the impression that the holidays that I've been taking are just time off for being pregnant!
These are just a couple of examples of the negative comments.

I don't know if I'm just being oversensitive but I'm fed up with having to justify everything just because they seem to think I'm taking advantage by having a baby!

Well if it won't impact their workload, they should STFU. If it were to make their daily working lives harder, I could understand it to a point.

In that case just please keep a diary. You dont HAVE to use it, but IF it gets worse, then you have a clear bank of evidence. Think of it as insurance.

They're clearly not as educated as tgey like to think they are. Whether your colleague thinks its fair or not that you get a years mat leave is neither here nor there. Under employment laws thats what you're entitled to.
Also why are you using your scans and anti natal checks as holidays. You've no need to do that. You're entitled to time off for appointments as well as your holidays. It seems to me like you're feeling intimidated by these bullies . Please speak to HR

Even 30 years I didn't use holiday for ante natal appointments - just popped out for them and then went back into work.

If they think it's an easy ride being at home looking after a baby or baby and toddler let them try it! I took 2 weeks off before going back full time and I can tell you being at work just having to express milk a few times is dead easy compared to a year's maternity leave which would be hell on earth for many of us even if we had full pay during it which just about no one gets!

This happened to me with DC1. I was very young and bottled it all up. I had no idea about HR and just got more and more upset about it all. In the end i told them all loudly to fuck off, and went off and got on with my work alone.

I got a group apology after an hour or so. I don't know who instigated it. But i've never forgotten how horrible they made me feel.

God luck OP. Some good suggestions here. Don't let them get you down, this work place bullying.