To not want to see my mi laws crusty face on Boxing Day

[Tamponlady]

Bil came over this weekend we were chatting as you do asking about Christmas plans.oh then said oh I herd mum and dad and going to sisters.

Bil then said yeah the plan is hers on Christmas then yours on Boxing Day he saw my face then Tried to back track saying he wasn't sure what the plans were

I mean what the fuck how can you make plans to go to someone's house for Christmas with out asking them first do said he's as shocked as I was

She is very toxic tbh I stopped going to hers 4 years ago

I think it's a Liberty tbh

Darvany "You're the carcass" is the new "You're not the boss of me" round our house.

OP, I just want to clarify. Does or does not your DH have your back in dealing with his parents? Because if he doesn't, therein lies your problem!

Your dh is the issue, not her.
You don't have to see her but you are married to him!

He would say somthing if he saw her openly attacking however she is very clever with the back handed comments
And he did agree after the "incident" we would not be going back to their home ever as a family he is welcome to go alone.

Also sadly his parents control him with money that's how they get away with being such shits after the "incident " they put 5k in his account.

Not sure if he doesn't see most of it or he thinks by being passive or nurtal it will go away

We haven't spoken for nearly 4 days now

See, I'm a bitch. If someone insulted me then threw money at me I'd take their damn money. And then I'd tell them to fuck off. What I wouldn't do is think it meant I had to toe their line. If they're stupid enough to try to buy me off, that's their problem, isn't it? But if your DH can't grow a pair and have that attitude, then he needs to start refusing the money. Even if that means that he (or both of you) have to retrench to a more frugal lifestyle.

I'd just keep up the NC. Hopefully 4 days will become a week, then a month……here's hoping.

Look obviously the behaviour you've just listed is pretty vile but wouldn't that have been helpful at the beginning rather than some people - me included - thinking your just being rude and horrible?

And if you're all NC why on earth would they come to see you anyway on BD?