To find my 4yo incessant talking unbelievably irritating...

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Don't get me wrong I love my DD to pieces. But she talks constantly, repeating the same stuff or just talking random bollocks.

I make a point of not ignoring her and chat back to her or whatever but sometimes it is unbearably annoying and I just want to shout in her face to shut up (I have never done this btw).

I find it draining and exhausting and very annoying (mostly when I'm tired myself).

AIBU and a horrible mum or are there others? Also is this a 'phase' and will she grow out of it hopefully soon ?

That seems a bit harsh , Venus!
DS is an extrovert, he has always processed everything out loud and he still does that now he is 15 - but he is capable of silence and conversation rather than monologue now!
I am an introvert but mostly I find him quite restful ,like background noise 😄
And I see little kids like he used to be at work, they make me smile - it's nice to hear what's going on in their minds!

I agree with pp that you need to tell children when they are being boring or annoying. There's no need to be harsh but if you don't teach them this, how on earth will they learn it?

Every year I am shocked to find children in my class (I have taught the full ks2 range) who do not see ANY time when they should not be talking and have no concept that it is rude to interrupt. It is always at top volume.

Me: now, everyone just be quite for a second and decide which one you're voting for
Child: I'm voting for....

Me: put your hand up if you have a question
Child: where do we...

Me: we need to be silent in the school corridors
Child: Mrs wellthen...

Me: does anyone not have their work?
Child: I've got mine

Me: once upon a time...
Child: James has got BLUTAC!!!

Some children speak during inputs, story time, silent thinking time, walking to assembly, while another child is speaking. They don't whisper, as all children (and many adults!) do when they shouldn't be. They speak at full volume ABOVE the person speaking, in order to be heard.

How can they have so few social skills? (sn aside). It is because they are treated as their voice is the voice of God and must always be heard.

And it isn't just some. I have this every year. As you can probably tell from this post, I have two or three this year!

My 4 year old is like this. She is a non stop chatter box and it does drive me insane. I do sometimes say "dd can you please be quiet for 5 minutes" which she never does. DS also can talk a lot as well and it will be a constant running commentary about what he is doing or something. He does get told that I don't need a running commentary.

I don't agree that children need to be told they are boring or annoying. I think this is disgustingly rude. The only thing it's telling them is that it's okay to tell someone that they are boring or annoying, and it isn't.

Ds is nearly 8 and cannot stop talking, sorry OP all these posters saying they have the same problem probably isn't helping!!
I try and tune ds out but he always wants answers to his bloody irritating stream of conscious

Ds is the same, he even sleep talks full conversations with himself.

The worst bit is the bossing about. Stand there. No not there here. No I will do it. Actually you can...well double actually I will. Confuses the hell out of me and himself.

Ds2 was just like this. Stream of consciousness monolgue going on all the time. It used to make me want to shout (or stick my fingers in my ears) but of course I didnt. I thought he might stip or at least quieten down when he went to yo school, but no such luck.

He carried on his chatting through primary school, through secondary school and then he reached 16 and puberty, Now, I'm lucky if I get grunted at a couple of times a day.

So, whilst it's really annoying at the moment, make the most of it. And if it all gets too much, there's always

This was my dd 9years ago. She even talked in her sleep. I always said that it was like sharks; if they stop swimming they're dead. If dd ever stopped talking something was very wrong.

She is 13 now and only comes out of her room to demand food and/or money. It really was a massive swing from the constant talking to the occasional grunt once puberty hit.

I do sometimes say "dd can you please be quiet for 5 minutes"
He does get told that I don't need a running commentary.

I don't agree that children need to be told they are boring or annoying.
Which is it? Either its ok to correct anchild's behaviour or its not, you're saying both.

Obviously I didn't mean sayin 'you're boring'. I meant gentle correction as we do all the time
You've talked a lot, let someone else say something
I don't want to chat right now
Please don't interrupt, its rude.
Etc

Or you could never say it and then one day, when they're 16, someone will finally explode and say 'oh my god, SHUT UP. You never stop fucking TALKING. and you're so fucking BORING!'
Much better.

DD does it when I'm parking or trying to do some difficult driving manoeuvre (or something else that requires concentration). I say "this is a non-yammering moment" and she now knows what I mean.

Hell no, definitely NBU. DS found his voice about five months ago & hasn't stfu since so I really feel your pain.

Excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me.

Yes?

Red is a colour.

Sorry, DD is 14 and talks incessantly :) She started at 9 months and hasn't stopped yet!!

There is a woman aged in her fifties who sits in on our leisure group who is like this. Unfortunately she has a really grating voice which we all hate and doesn't seem to understand the concept of turn-taking in conversation. I had to ask her to keep quiet the other day so one of the other women who has slight learning difficulties could tell her neighbor something. Amazingly she did stop talking and shortly after took her leave.

DD is 9. She talks all the time about absolute random nonsense. I am quite introverted and really need silence sometimes. She is now old enough for me to say 'you have totally filled up my brain with STUFF, please give me five minutes of quiet' and she gets it and goes off to get a book or write a postcard to someone she will see tomorrow. So there is light at the end of the tunnel, I think. You just have to get through this bit.

I have one 'talker' and one 'not a big talker'. It's not because I let one behave like they have the voice of God at all. It's to do with their characters.

I am very direct about it and say things like 'please stop, that doesn't make sense and its a bit annoying' or if it does make sense and they've just been talking for hours I'll say 'ok, we need some quiet time now' or even 'let's let your brother talk now'.

Basically I'm telling you you are doomed to have a chatterbox forever, but at least you'll never be bored.

It is absolutely okay to tell them you need a break, as far as I'm concerned it is good parenting (and a sanity reliever). As others have said they need to learn that they can't be talking all the time and that it is rude to waffle on when everyone is bored.
Otherwise they end up like my DP who I do love very much but who also never bloody shuts up. I recently went to a large convention where a lot of upcoming media information was released and so knew a lot of things before they were released to the general public. Ever since he keeps coming up to me and telling me "did you know so and so" " yes dear, I was there when they announced it" end of topic to a normal person, or you move on to discuss new info that was released. Not so. He will go on for a minimum of 10 minutes telling me the same information that I have just told him I already know. Even though I was there at the convention, where they actually released more info than DP has seen.

Dd is also four and does this as soon as her eyes open.
Today it was all about her being a "duck" in her school nativity. Turns out she meant angel
I do sometimes say shhh! And she looks mortified so I feel bad then.

I was that kid
Encourage it
Others will cut them down later. Let them enjoy expressing themselves
I know it must be annoying but it won't be forever

Child number three never stops.
I say 'could you stop talking now, mummy needs some quiet time'
A lot of the time I zone out. I have heard too much about My Little Pony already.

This thread is depressing as hell. Look, I know you all love your kids and I know special needs kids can be a soul crushing drain of energy, and I know some kids are very much 'stream of conciousness' verbalises, and others are just chatterboxes, and also highly intelligent learners who avoid difficult learning through distraction via conversation. But, on the flip-side, a lot of the dad-dad-Dad-Dad-DAD-DAAAAD stuff is no more than a thirsty dog barking loud and long to get water when its bowl is running dry. It will bark as loud as it has to for attention and if the bowl is then filled with a trickle of water it learns to keep barking continuously and as loudly as possible. Its easy to spot these little kids because they are the ones so completely and utterly gobsmacked when an adult talks with them about something that interests them.

Dadwashere I take exception to that.
Are you seriously suggesting my ds talks and talks because we all ignore him?
Of course we don't, everyone talks to him, takes a huge interest in him and what he has to say, he just likes to talk. A lot.
Just occasionally the constant stream of words gets tiring. It doesn't mean we're going to tell him to shut up or make him feel bad, but when he's going on and on about Lego and the floor and whatever else is in his line of sight then it gets a bit draining!
Don't be offended on his behalf

Well, Dad, I think you're making a lot of assumptions about how starved for attention all the children on this thread must be. Oh, if only we would talk to our children once in a while, they wouldn't be like this? Gosh, I'd never have thought of that

Hate to play the gender card, but I smell mansplaining.

And also, unless you have been the stay at home parent, or the parent that spends the majority of their time with their children as opposed to being at work all week, well, frankly you could never appreciate exactly what the people on this thread are talking about. Again, I'll assume you're not the stay at home or default parent, and be on my way...

Have you thought about getting her some sort of voice recorder?

I was a non-stop chatterbox at 5, and my parents dealt with it by buying me a tape recorder and blank tapes. Cue hours of "reading the news", singing and making up stories into the tape recorder, and listening to it afterwards. Something like this constitutes "an audience" of sorts, and also has the benefit of giving children the ability to review their own utterances and thoughts.

I reckon a lot of children at this age talk non-stop because they are in the process of trying to learn how to converse and how to think. They are not mature enough to use language in their head, but they still need to use language in order to figure out their own thought processes.

Again, I'll assume you're not the stay at home or default parent, and be on my way...

Your assumption is incorrect.

DadwashereI take exception to that. Are you seriously suggesting my ds talks and talks because we all ignore him?

I did not single you out kelper, or anyone in the thread, and I listed lots of situations where kids would talk on and on. Where I to talk to your ds in a regular social situation about what he was doing, based on what you write, I doubt he would be surprised by that at all, so there is nothing you need to take personal exception to. I have no window into the lives of any of the kids discussed in this thread or any other thread for that matter, but its not been my experience in the real world that every parent who says their child talks too much, actually has a child like that. I cant be unique in that observation.