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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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AIBU Fuming with gp surgery

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CookieKatie · 24/11/2015 17:21

I'm 5 weeks pregnant and had a gp appintment for next Wednesday all lined up. Was happy as it coincided with annual leave I'd for travel for a friend's wedding.

I booked it last Friday and was really excited!
They've just rung up to tell me it shouldn't have been booked in the first place the midwife isn't in AND the only time she sees new appointments is 12.20 pm & 12.40pm on Tuesdays and 2pm &2.20 pm Wednesdays.

Aibu to think they should try to fit me in later on the Tuesday - it's not my fault they cancelled :( not ready to tell work (plus my manager is on annual leave for two weeks so can't tell her even if I wanted too) so would have to take annual leave for any appointments made!

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gamerchick · 24/11/2015 21:00

It's too early to start your maternity care OP, you really need to chill there's a long road ahead.

PPs are right though, your booking in appointment is a right snooze fest... Just take it easy for the next few weeks and things will happen in due course.

PurpleDaisies · 24/11/2015 21:04

Obviously the GP surgery making a mistake isn't ideal but they've let you know over a week in advance. It isn't even an urgent appointment.

YABU.

Fratelli · 25/11/2015 07:46

The appointment will be boring and they'll probably tell you to come back in a few weeks anyway. It's mostly just form filling. Save your excitement for the baby. Also, to be fuming about this isn't a normal reaction imo. Annoyed yes but fuming? Relax. Your work can be told you have a drs appointment. No need to say what for.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 25/11/2015 07:49

Why do you need to see anyone at 5 weeks is beyond me
What exactly do you expect them to do?

3luckystars · 25/11/2015 08:05

Maybe she I not in the UK? I am in Ireland and lots of women would go to the doctor immediately, like at 4 weeks, it often doesn't even show pregnant on the gp tests because its too early! You have to go that early if you want a certain consultant because they can be booked out.
Its a different system here and you have to pay for this GP appointment, €50 so you have a bit of a chat and they congratulate you, its nice.

I don't think a mix up with appointments is anything to get cross about though. Relax. Best wishes op.

Baconyum · 25/11/2015 08:06

Congratulations

But yes you need to calm down and be more realistic.

There's nothing they can do until at least 8 weeks (and I had high risk pregnancies). Even then all they can do is a very basic pv scan. All that will do is confirm a heartbeat.

Only other reasons I can think of to go so early is if you're diabetic or on medication contraindicated in pregnancy but that you urgently need to take.

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 11:43

Hi! Thanks for your comments just reread what I posted and I never once mentioned that my original appintment was for the midwife not the gp! It's just arranged via my gp.

Also the reason I'm so nervous is this isn't my first pregnancy I've had to 2 miscarriages before 8 weeks and was hoping to get in with midwife as early as poss in order to make sure everything was going to be OK with this one.

Definitely had an angry moment but very much calm about it now (too early to blame pregnancy hormones? Haha)

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Baconyum · 25/11/2015 11:47

I was avoiding saying so in my earlier post I've also had mc but really there's nothing they can do so early on.

Pippa12 · 25/11/2015 11:51

Don't worry about it. I'm ~20 weeks, didn't get midwife appt till 10 weeks. Even then it's just paper work, and number to book scan. Get used to the times being inconvenient, unfortunately they're so busy you have to fit around them not the other way around!!!

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 11:52

Baconyum I'm sorry to hear that

I'm sure you're right, just gonna have to hang tight and hope that it all works out this time. I think I was hoping the earlier I see the midwife then hopefully the earlier I can have my scan (within reason obviously) I'll be 10 weeks at Christmas so it'd be nice to have had my scan before then that way I can let myself be excited. Although I am very sure it will probably in January, think I just need to chill and trust it will be OK if it's meant to be.

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AnyFucker · 25/11/2015 11:56

Aww, nice to see that even someone "fuming" in AIBU can take on board when they have been OTT.

Good luck with your pregnancy. I was third time lucky and very anxious at the beginning

Runningupthathill82 · 25/11/2015 11:57

Your scan definitely won't be before 10 weeks - the dating scan has to be between 11 weeks and 13+6 I believe.
In my area they won't even give you a booking appointment until after 10 weeks. Of course you could book a private scan before Christmas. But seeing the midwife earlier certainly won't get you a scan any earlier.

stuffthenonsense · 25/11/2015 11:58

im not a fan of scans, especially early ones, as they are only a brief snapshot in time, but you could always book a private one if you think it will it help you emotionally. they can be around £40.

QforCucumber · 25/11/2015 11:58

I also have had an early loss in the past at 8 weeks, still didn't get any earlier appointments this time around but did book in for a private scan at 9+6 just for my own peace of mind. There's nothing anyone can do so early sadly.

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 11:59

Pippa12 congratulations!!
10 weeks seems so late to me how did you cope? I'd be so worried lol!

Oh and I figured the appointments would be that way! That's why I so happy when my original appointment landed on annual leave. I work for the NHS so I know first hand how hectic is! I think it'll be a relief when I tell my manager and I can take time to go have my appintments and not have to worry about making up reasons for random annual leave haha

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 12:00

Anyfucker

Haha I'm not always unreasonable!! just posted in a bad moment

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Baconyum · 25/11/2015 12:00

Thanks cookie. Me too af for both your losses.

Scan can't be reliably done till at least 8 weeks as heartbeat can't definitely be picked up till then. Add to that that dating is based ok lmp and so can be up to 2 weeks out anyway.

AnyFucker · 25/11/2015 12:03

Also, while we are all being so reasonable and realistic, it is worth saying that with my second I had a scan early on but still went on to lose the pregnancy a few days later

You just have to wait (as horrible and frustrating as that is)

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 12:03

Oh and thanks all those who suggested a private scan! £40 sounds reasonable. I'll have to check prices in my local area but I'm sure they shouldn't be much more. Maybe I can frame it as a Christmas present for us to the hubby so we can have a little piece of mind (he's even more nervous than me!)

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 12:04

Anyfucker - so sorry for your loss

OK now I'm rethinking the early scan.... will have to speak to hubs and see what he thinks.

Why don't we all have crystal balls so we can see into the future aye??

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AnyFucker · 25/11/2015 12:05

If i had a pound for every time I said/thought "if I had a crystal ball...." I would be a very rich woman

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CookieKatie · 25/11/2015 12:07

Anyfucker - hahaha tell me about it! Probably be second richest to whoever gets around to inventing one

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Pippa12 · 25/11/2015 12:17

I had a early scan cookie- I was beside myself with worry. I know in the long run there isn't anything you can do to prevent loss but apparently the chances of miscarriage decreases once a heart beat is detected so it may offer some reassurance.

Try to think positive. At my worst I avoided all early pregnancy forums and apps, tried only to think positive thoughts about baby or not at all. I adopted this policy with my husband too. I felt dreadfully for those ladies suffering a loss, but decided I was not strong enough to read multiple threads after past experiences.

Try to enjoy it, and congratulations x

ChimpyChops · 25/11/2015 12:33

I went to the gp for an early scan as had 4 previous losses and he wouldn't refer me. Said that it would probably be a probe scan which would carry a risk.

I know how you feel but it may be a case of pay for a private scan or nothing. They shouldn't have booked you in and yes, I would be annoyed. Midwife appointments are only certain times at the GP, we have a community midwives centre nearby which makes it easier, possibly somehing to find out about in your area.

Good luck with your pregnancy

YouAndMeAreGoingToFallOut · 25/11/2015 13:31

I'm 9 weeks pregnant, and I've realised after reading others' experiences that I really like the system where I am. When I found out I was pregnant, I phoned the central midwife booking number, and got a date booked there and then for a booking appointment (which I had last week at 8 weeks: it was indeed a very long and dull appointment) and a 12 week scan. No faffing about seeing the GP, no waiting ages wondering what the scan date would be. All very straightforward.

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