To be upset that close friend hasn't sent anything for DS?

[Zippyette]

I had my second baby 7 weeks ago and one of my closest friends didn't send a card or present for him. It's my second child. She did for my first. AIBU to expect her to acknowledge his birth in this way second time round? She's sent me two text messages to see how we're doing. We live 2.5 hours apart and see each other once a year. She doesn't have kids.

You need to concentrate more on your health and your DC and less on cards and gifts. The fact she has thought about you both enough to ask how you were should be sufficient. Gifts are just that. Gifts. They're generally given as a token gesture. They cease to be appreciated when they become expected.

Can't be much of a best friend if you see each other once a Year? My best friend live the other end of the country and we see each other at least 6 times a year.

Bully for you, and with an attitude like that I doubt you have few if any other friends than the one you've mentioned.

Agree with Confused! Of course I'd expect a more formal welcome/acknowledgement from a good friend - god, I send cards and pressies for new babies to work colleagues, dh's friends and colleagues etc.

Jeez. A text isn't the same. And it's not just about being grabby!

Think op is getting a hard time.

How do we know the friend can't be arsed? Maybe she genuinely forgot or is going through some personal stuff,

How do you know what's going on in her life? You and your baby might not be her priority at the moment.

YABVU. Enjoy your new baby can't you, without obsessing over crap?

I think yabu as she has contacted you. Congratulations on your new baby op.

Can't be much of a best friend if you see each other once a Year?

^ This.

Do you send your friend birthday and xmas presents? If not, YABU for expecting present/card from someone you see once a year.

*Can't be much of a best friend if you see each other once a Year?

^ This.*

You do realise that in todays world there are other forms of communication that make it possible for people to maintain a long and healthy relationship when distance is a problem?

Yabu.
I don't keep a tick sheet of which friend sends me which card/present, and which doesn't. I hope none of my friends do either. Sometimes I do, sometimes I forget. No biggie.

Thanks for the recognition from some that I wasn't expecting too much! And we used to see each other a bit more often BUT it was always me visiting her and now that I have kids it's not as easy! But I do recognise that she has checked in with me and at least she has made some effort to see how DS and DD are doing.