At my wits end and it's only November.
Spent last 2 Xmas at home with kids and my parents. Elderly dad with dementia and slightly younger but sick mum. Widowed mil who has spent last 2 Xmas with Bil and family. We usually do year around with my parents coming to mil but last two years they have been 2 sick to make the 4 hour round trip.
This year mil wants us at her house. My parents couldn't cope with journey. I'm now guilt tripped as my parents now going to be alone at home just another day for my mum caring for my dad who has no idea what day it is.
Would make more sense for everyone to come to mine but mil wants it at hers. If we don't go then she will be home alone. Dh wants to go to hers and i know it's obit fair as we have been home last 2 years. No matter what we do someone is upset or alone and I feel shit about it. What would you do?