To keep her

[Ifoundacatnowwhat]

This afternoon I have taken the children to see the ex at his house.

Shortly before we were going out a young cat walked into the kitchen. Surprising as there's no houses close by, very rural. There's a farm across the road where there's a lot of ferral cats but they run when they see humsns.
She was instantly chased out by the dog and the ex walked outside and kicked her several times to get her to run off. Since then she has followed me whenever I've walked outside, got into my car several times, thrown herself at the back door trying to get in and sat outside and cried. I'm worried if I walk away tomorrow that she'll continue to try to get in and the ex is really hateful to cats. Wibu to take her to a vets tomorrow and keep her if she's unchipped? There no local missing cats on Facebook, I have checked.

"The vet nurse who looked her over said there's every chance she could be ferral and chose an owner"

She's not feral. Feral cats are from domestic stock but are born wild. They won't willingly go near humans. My two came from Cats Protection and they had to trap them to get them to me. It took days for me to be able to get in the same room with them without them hiding from me and weeks before one of them would let me touch her. The other one took months. Your girl sounds a lot, lot tamer than any feral cat. She's probably an abandoned pet.

One of mine is now on my lap and the other one is nearby - took ages for them to become tame, but was worth it!

Please take her in and give her a loving home before your ex hurts her more. As a mum to 4 cats, if I'd seen your ex kick the cat I would have ripped his throat out. Abusive twat.

Just saw the pic you posted. She's identical to one of mine

She looks just like Shockercat! He is bonkers and regularly follows me to the supermarket, where he waits patiently by the door for me to come out. I hope your girl brings you as much joy as he does to us .

You need to take the ex to a vet and have him put down.

Euthanasia would be too good for him! For those of you who have identical cats, no ones missing one are they?? She can stay with me and she's safe, he doesn't actually know where I live, I chose not to tell him. She is really friendly and amazing with the kids, the 2 year old was using her as a pillow this afternoon and she wasn't bothered.

You have been Chosen. I see no reason why some "feral" cats may not seek out a home, if they are favoured with "domestic" genes while most of their relatives aren't.

Ours was born and bred on a farm, so not technically feral. She had excellent hunting skills, and could easily have supported herself had she stayed in the farm and not become our Supreme One.

I can't Believe people are coping over the poor cat when there is a much bigger issue.. a violent animal abuser!. Get the cat a better home where she won't feel threatened when that fucked up waste of space comes round. Oh and you will need to treat your house for fleas now as well.

"Cooing"

The ex never goes to the OP's house Regina. RTFT.

She's lovely OP, what will you call her? :)

Keep her and pamper her

Silvery this is an American site but what it explains holds good for any domesticated cats. Truly feral cats miss out on early socialisation. This means they do not seek out humans - their whole body language is different and they rarely vocalise, because many cat sounds are made just to communicate with humans, not other cats.

A cat that has had some socialisation in the first weeks and months of its life and then been abandoned may well seek out a home. A feral cat that has not been socialised won't do that. It's not a case of "domestic genes", it's the early contact with people that makes the difference.

If this cat is making contact with people she doesn't know, and allowing a small child to use her as a pillow, she quite simply isn't feral.

Oh, I'm so pleased you've found an Owner, Ivefoundacat

Looks like she's found her forever home.

Damn seasonal colds.

gabalan I imagine its socialisation as well. I met a lovely family of 3 feral cats in a trailer park in Ireland, mum and son friendly, daughter more standoffish. So some more ready to socialise in the first place. And I saw a program about Chenobyl area, where decendants of domestic cats seemed to want to find an actual home.

I agree this cat sounds much more upfront from those cats but was hoping to help persuade OP

*than those cats.
(It wouldn't have taken much for me to entice mum into our trailer - but I didn't, not fair on anyone)