to feel left out and hurt even if I sound about ten years old?

[winkywinkola]

I feel a bit shite really.

I have made some good friends at the school gate. At least I thought I had.

I walk three mornings a week with three other mums. We've socialised together and met up in the holidays with the dcs.

Last half term I found out they had all three met up and gone to LegoLand together with their dcs. Not a whisper of it to me. Two of them quite breezily mentioned it separately on our walks once this half term had started. I didn't say anything but I was hurt that I hadn't been part of it.

Another friend had a birthday lunch gathering very recently. It was one of those short cooking courses. Great fun. Apparently. I can't think why I wasn't invited. We see each other every week because our dcs do the same activity. And meet up some weekends especially when her dh is away with work.

I just saw her FB update at this cooking event. She said she'd just done with her mum and dad and one friend but in reality it was with six of her friends.

I feel a total twit for thinking these people really were friends of mine. And then I think I should just be shrugging it off but I've had them all round at mine for Bonfire Night, dinner, general socialising etc.

If I ask why then I will just get fudgy excuses won't I so zero point in asking.

Fair enough, I read the original post, but only skimmed the thread.

I'd start looking for new friends, then. No point pining away for people who don't appreciate you, especially when there are people out there who really will.

I had a single mum friend who had gone through a messy divorce. I invited mum friend #2 to join us one day, we had a lovely afternoon, bonded over divorce experiences etc, discussed going on a spa day together. Next Father's Day, lots of pics on FB of the two of them. At a hotel spa for the weekend. I may have put a PA comment on it YANBU to feel hurt and left out.

If they don't like you well enough to include you, you don't want their friendship. Stay friendly and polite but start investing your energies elsewhere.

I had this happen to me. The frenemy told me she asked the organiser of the the trip not to invite me as she knew I couldn't afford it. Apparently she was worried I'd be embarrassed to say I couldn't go. Yeah right. The truth is she dropped me because I'd distanced myself from the 'in' crowd, so couldn't get her in the 'in' crowd. Many of the 'in' crowd took cocaine and I'm not in to that. Stay polite to them but don't invite them to anything. They're not worth your effort.