Posting here for traffic.
I have just a had a phone call from my mother, I really should be in bed,but can't go because I am so upset.
To cut a long story short I posted before and the unanimous mn desicion was that I would not be unreasonable to go nc with my mother.
It is hard to know where to begin but let's just say that she can be very unpleasant and seems to want to destroy my happiness.
The last time she came to my house and had an 'episode' resulting in my asking her twice to stop shouting at me and please keep her voice down ( dd2s friend was in our house at the time).
In desperation I spoke to my auntie( her sister) about it and when my mother next saw her, my auntie had a quiet word and suggested that she stop interfering in my life, stop passing her uninvited opinion about everything, otherwise she would lose me and my kids from her life.
Her response was to storm out of my aunties and not speak to her for a few months!
I did go nc but she , mainly through my dc, managed to weave her wAy back in.
I need to point out that I have not been to her house or instigated seeing her at all. Neither have I invited her to my house.
I did ignore her calls until she came into the house one day with dd2 after offering dd2 a lift.
So basically I have stopped communicating with her but understand the dc still want to keep in touch..
Anyway the lease on my Dp tenancy is up and the landlord is moving back into the property.
Just before finding out we had agreed to move in together so dp is going to move in with me and my dc.
We have waited and taken our time if I was alone we would have done this much earlier.
We are looking at all the furniture we have and I suggested that it might be best if I sell 2 single beds and we use dps double bed instead, dd1 is at uni.
No big deal in the scheme of things but somehow my mother has found out and rung me , now ranting and raving demanding to know why I an selling my dcs beds.
Am I planning on throwing them out of thehouse?
She wanted to know exactly why I am selling their beds, those were her exact words.
I told her s he was unreasonable ringing me up at this time of night asking questions which are none of her business.
She then proceeded to start screaming that it was her who had helped me out and I was making a huge mistake.
I again repeated that if I want to change the beds in my dcs room then it is none of her business.
She carried on shouting why am I doing it, am I trying to get rid of my children?!?!
Again I said no I am merely altering the furniture.
She makes me feel like I am a bad person who is moving sone kind of monster into my house.
I can hardly speak to anyone in rl because she is so bloody vile I have confided in 2 very close friends who have both said they are totally disgusted in what she has said and done in the past.
They cannot understand why she is like she is and have assured me there is nothing wrong with me.
I want to cry I feel like she us trying to poison the kids against ME and dp. Like she wants to drive a wedge between us.
Life is hard enough as it is without my own mother acting like a fucking she devil.
sorry this is long.
For Those of you who can remember she called me an alcoholic at my dds birthday party.
I am nothing like an alcoholic but she wanted dds friends to believe that I am.
Thanks if you've got this far.