To refuse to give my DD money?

[gBean]

My DD is 16 and attends college 3.5 days a week. I give her £20 a week for travel/drinks at college, pay mobile contract of £25pm and give her £20 a month pocket money.

She's going into town today with mate and wants £20 when I know she has £40 babysitting money in her room.

I've said no. She thinks IABU as she's saving the babysitting money.

My Dh has just lost his job so we are currently getting by on my part time wage with 3 dc but even if I HAD spare money, i think I'd still say no.

Hello, yes she got an iPhone with if. Locked into a contract for another year so not much I can do to save there.

We have had a chat though and she's promised to find a job (I'll believe that when I see it ).

I was babysitting and doing odd jobs for money starting at 12-13 I was still shit at saving. She can find ways to get her own money. A fast food or retail job isn't too hard to land, young kids like her are brought in because they can pay her the lowest wage possible.

Can you help her fill in the application forms?

Sometimes people need a bit of gentle help! It's not necessarily to do with age or maturity - my DP and I always help each other with our CVs and cover letters when applying for jobs. It's just one if those things that can be easier to do for someone else than

I found my first job by going into every retai shop on Oxford Street and asking if they had vacancies. I got started at Tottenham Court Rd abs had a job before I got to Oxford Circus.

I appreciate that was back in the dark ages, before the internet, but I wonder if that approach still works, especially for small businesses?

Oops, that should say "than yourself "