Argument with DH about watching TV and asking questions...?!

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We've been getting into a boxset, which is a treat as we have a baby and don't get out much so it's something fun we can do together

Tonight he suddenly got very irritated that I ask him questions about the storyline when I'm not following it/paying attention properly. But it's quite a hard story to follow! I admit I am a bit ditsy when it comes to this but that's how I am and if it means he has to help me with it sometimes so we can enjoy it together, whats the big deal?! I would do it for him and do loads of nice things for him every day!

AIBU?! We're not sitting in separate rooms and Ive been in tears...

DH did this to me with Breaking Bad, which he hadn't watched and I had. It's infuriating. I don't mind explaining general plot stuff, but when it starts getting down to really nuanced and trivial stuff, and I say 'it doesn't MATTER, just ignore it' and he says 'yes, but WHY is that guy doing that' I lose it a bit.

I still remember watching No Country for Old Men one Christmas with MIL and a bunch of relatives. I love that film and throughout the entire thing, they kept asking what that guy was doing, why he was doing it, who's he, why doesn't she just run away and I don't think much of this, I don't understand etc etc. I even offered to change channels halfway through the film but no, they insisted on watching it and hating it.

I don't think it's unreasonable to ask questions, especially if you pause it. He is BU if he has made you so upset you have gone off in tears, especially if you have a small baby. Tbh though I am terrible for discussing programmes while they are on, I like to chat about the actors/the costumes/the set/general plot points, it drives my DP mad so I have to rein it in

Really, really bloody annoying. Sorry

If I cba, (or I just can't understand) to follow the plot then I just google the episode and find out rather than annoy the person watching.

My favourite EVER Fucking stupid question was when I was watching Romper Stomper.

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My mate asked ' but why did he stab that man. Who is that man again ?' As Hando bleeds to death on the beach
I'd watched the whole damn film through a white noise of plot related questions.

Yes, the final scene.

If you hadn't grasped the plot by that point, you really should have given up.

My MIL does this and it's bloody irritating. She talks through the whole programme and asks questions. Just watch the bloody programme!

My MIL does this ALL the time and I seethe. I sometimes can't understand plots OP but I'd never ask....if I'm not watching it with enough concentration to follow it then I'm not that into it and I give up on it.

I think some people are being a bit harsh. Especially the sarky faces and pull yourself together. Do any of you remember the exhaustion of a new baby? I think the op sounds perfectly normal and needs a hug from her mum rather than sarky faces and bitchy comments.

The baby is 11 months old, not a newborn.

Just wait until between the episodes

Sorry, but I'm with buttons, blunt as they are

Talking through a programme is extremely rude and annoying, you really need to not do it. And in tears?!

Apologise to your DH and all will be well If you get stuck with the plot again, try Google!

My partner and I do ask each other questions but we pause or rewind to avoid missing bits.

Clearly there are a lot of opposing viewpoints here and I guess your partner is the type to hate interruptions.

Could you watch without asking questions and ask them at the end? Or look up a TV recaps site on your phone to explain as you go?

Sit through it and ask your questions when it's over. Or Google them.

This is annoying. My DP does this through Eastenders . He doesn't watch it per se but if he's around when I'm watching it Oh. My. God. "Who's she? Why's he doing that? I thought they..." Ad infinitum. He then brings up characters from nineteen-canteen and I'm like wtf and shuddup!

But anyway, now I've got that off my chest, OP it sounds like he could have been a little harsh to get you upset over this. Surely it's only enjoyable watching a show together if you both understand what's going on??

My DP is a chatterbox always through tv shows etc but I guess we both do a bit of this otherwise it's crap watching a show with a constant look of confusion on your face and the goldfish effect because you're too scared to ask your other half! That's what the pause button is for. Don't get me wrong, too many pauses and questions results in a FFS! from me but he has form

My ex told me not to bother ever watching inception because I wouldn't get it Dick. (I still haven't seen it after his comment)

If you are in tears about it, you've over reacted.

It is really irritating to have someone asking questions.

Having said that, I remember one film when I just couldn't grasp what the hell was going on. It turned out that I'd failed to notice there were two very similar looking male leads rather than one hugely confusing character... If I'd asked about it earlier, the film might have been better :)

My children keep asking questions when I'm watching highbrow programmes. my stock response is "I'm not explaining the entire plot of EE/Casualty/Holby City/etc"

highbrow programmes. my stock response is "I'm not explaining the entire plot of EE/Casualty/Holby City/etc"

Dh is crap at following plots. Or just understanding characters. If he's paying attention I don't mind too much (as long as he pauses).

But if he's dicking about on the laptop is really annoying.

YABU if you aren't paying attention and then expect someone else to stop paying attention to explain it to you.
YANBU if you are paying attention but have difficulty following the story, although quite often the story is not clear and we have to wait to find out certain plot developments to fully understand what we watched, so your oh may simply not be able to explain it to you.

SoupDragon, was it The Departed? God I was confused by that. Took me a both half an hour to realise they were two different people!

She's said it's only one question per episode. If be fine with that.

Brian I can't remember what film it was (which speaks volumes). I remember there was a sudden flash of understanding.... Probably when both characters appeared on screen at the same time. By that point, the film was dead for me though!

I hate it when women call themselves 'ditsy'. You are not 'ditsy' neither are you incapable. You have a brain. You are not putting the effort in. It's very simple.

One or two quick questions or comments is fine. Lots of questions and discussion isn't and will mean that he will also miss loads and also not know what is going on.

Agree with Lwegi about the plots are often unclear so it is impossible to easily explain. They're designed to give you enough info but also to keep you guessing, revealing little snippets that will become significant in 4 episodes time. Whys did he do that? Is often an impossible question to answer 2 episodes in.

I hate this too, and worse still I hate watching something that the other person has already seen, and they constantly pipe up with comments like "ooooh this is a good bit" "she made the wrong decision there" "look what happens when he gets in the car" etc etc etc. Or the absolute WORST - watching something like Blackadder, when your companion watcher says the punchlines before the character on TV.