First week doing slimming world, failed every day so far, aibu to think I won't lose weight?

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I went to my first ever slimming world meeting on Wednesday evening. I have been doing well during the day times but I haven't eaten at home for evening meal since Wednesday, through no real fault of my own. I ate at my brothers on Thursday as I was taking his daughter to watch some fireworks, yesterday and today I've eaten with the family I nanny for. I've not had a choice of what I ate for tea each time.

Thursday wasn't too bad, tuna and pasta with sweetcorn, all are syn free on slimming world but then we had cupcakes that my niece made so I couldn't say no to her.

Friday we had chicken, veg and stuffed mushrooms. Chicken had skin on I couldn't take the skin off without looking rude/picky and the mushrooms had cheese which I have milk for my Healthy A option so can't have cheese. Chicken without skin, veg and mushrooms without being stuffed would have been fine. Followed by a lindt chocolate teddy (tiny one)

Tonight I've had cottage pie full of cheesy mash. No idea if the mince was less than 5% fat which is syn free. No idea what else was in the mince. Followed by 2 glasses of wine.

So. 3 more days until weigh in. I'm not going to have lost weight, am I?

Don't give up. Stick to plan and you may be surprised by how you have done. Did the following the plan for the rest of the day?

Ive lost 10 stone on Slimming World in 2002/2003 and when it comes to weight loss you have to be selfish and think of yourself and not what other people want you to do socially.

I regained 4 stone between 2006 and 2013 but have lost that regain with SW again over the last 2 years.

Been slower this time round and i keep my sugar intake low so i dont eat so called low syn stuff like Muller light yoghurts and hifi bars.

Can you change your weigh in day. Realistically you should give yourself a 'good' week to see a decent loss (depending on how much you have to lose and how bad your diet was to begin with)

I still lose a 1lb if I am only 'good' 4-5 days out of 7 BUT on those days I am doing 1300 cals and no carbs for dinner. I am walking tons, eating really healthy food too.

Agree with Helena but disagree that it's selfish! You do have to woman up and say no, thanks, I'm trying to lose weight.

No, no you're not.

Losing weight means changing your lifestyle. Forever.

I'm sorry to be harsh, but if you're serious about this, then you need to change the way you eat.

Why did you have to eat with your brother, and the family you nanny for? Just say you can't eat with them, and eat later.

i can't imagine any situation in which you'd be thought rude removing the skin from your chicken.

A Lindt teddy!!! Really!

And tonight's meal you don't even know what went onto it? Who made it? Do they know you're trying to lose weight?

I'm sorry, I know I'm being harsh. But honestly, if you're serious about losing weight, then you need to change your lifestyle. Been there, done that, know it's hard. But it can be done, and you need to do it.

Immature by selfish i mean you have to think of yourself and your own health....and not give in to people who think you are being silly and keep saying that this cake or that choc bar wont hurt or why cant you come out for a coffee.

Check out the dating threads on the Relationships board Full of expectations like "Lets do a coffee and cake date or "lets share a takeaway"

These expectations from others ARE there and what i meant by selfish is that saying no is sometimes the best thing no matter if other people get in a strop about it. Because my health comes before appeasing others.

Thanks, I don't really want people knowing I'm trying lose weight though. Not until I know I can do it, if I say I'm going lose weight then don't I look a failure.

You are not a failure. You can do this.

Just tell people you are eating healthily

Don't have a whole cupcake?
Don't eat the chicken skin. Leave half the mushroom or eat mainly mushroom and not all the cheesy stuffing?
Say no to chocolate. Even a small one has calories and if you have already eaten extra cheese then you don't need that as well.
Shepherds pie. Have a small portion
Say no to wine.
I understand you could not eat at home but that doesn't mean you have no control over what you eat or drink.
Unless you make lifelong changes you won't lose weight.
Exercise?

Chicken skin - even the thought of chicken skin - gives me the dry boak so I'd have no problem taking that off and I can't imagine anyone being about that. Cupcakes? You don't have to eat them just because someone you're related to made them you know. A simple no thank you would do - if you have to elaborate just say your GP has ordered you to cut down on sugar. You are finding reasons to fail instead of making reasons to succeed and you'll have to change this first before anything falls into place.

Do you really actually want to lose weight? Generally week one is the week when most people will put in the most effort. Unless you really want this you won't lose anything.

You could easily have refused the chocolate teddy. The cupcake - 'Thank you, this looks lovely, i'm going to save it to have with a cup of tea when I get home'. Chicken skin - you could have just taken it off, I doubt anyone would have even noticed. You could also have just eaten half the mushrooms or just not the stuffing like a pp said.

Only you can decide if you're serious about losing weight or not and make those choices.

For anyone generally struggling with dieting though, I strongly recommend 16:8. It's a way of life, not a diet. I lost 3 stone on it, have kept it off and now follow the plan anyway (for 6 out of 7 days probably) as it's so natural to me. No calorie counting, no restrictions on what you eat at ALL (although making healthier choices will make you healthier as well as slimmer obviously). Ideal for anyone that struggles with portion control or feeling deprived when dieting. And supposed to do your cholesterol and life span wonders.

It's not a well known diet and it's the best thing I've ever done....really, please try it before SW/WW etc!

Yabu. Slimming world is like anything new that you have to learn. Don't expect to pick it up overnight. You will get better at it over time. Also, don't blame everyone around you for poor eating choices. There is always a way around things. Be honest with people about your weight loss efforts. Don't accept the idea that you will fail.

Chicken skin - just take it off. That isn't rude or picky.

'Oh, wow, you made cupcakes! They look delicious. I'm too full from lunch to eat one, but would you share one with me, so I can try a little bit?

Or

'Oh, wow, cupcakes! They look delicious. I'm still full from lunch, though, so could I take mine home with me?'

'Your shepherds pie smells amazing. I find I can't eat too much rich food at night, though. Please could I have a half-portion?' Even if they still give you loads, you have a pre-loaded excuse.

I'm not trying to lose weight but I use all these excuses and more when lovely people try to press food on me. The truth is, I'm not hungry and I can't eat it. I'd tell good friends and family straight out but appreciate that if it's your niece's/boss's/ SIL's cooking then you can't always.

Whatever you do, don't give up just because the first week wasn't quite to plan. It takes time to get good at things.

Iv lost weight too many times with too many slimming clubs. I'm back at slimming world BUT I'm making small changes. I have weeks like yourself. Don't beat yourself up. Just get back on plan tomorrow. I'm not being very strict this time and refuse to avoid eating out or socialising or making my life evolve around sw. Last thing unwanted to do is tell people I'm trying to loose weight.

Some weeks I loose, some I stay the same. I'm hoping my slow approach means I will finally be able to maintain a steady weight. I do try to fit in a bit of extra exercise to help with loss.

My experience (with Weightwatchers) was things were easier when I did tell people that I was doing it. I could explain what I wanted less of or none of and why. And I found people really didn't mind if I had just one potato or fruit instead of pudding.

Summer - what is the 16:8 diet?

Chocolate,cake and alcohol..... You sure you are actually wanting to lose weight? You can't be that serious

What exercise did you do?

Eat loads of superfree food between now and weigh in, be really good and you will be amazed at how well you manage to do.

slimming world is shit. I'm fed up of the girl that works next to me describing normal food as sins and sharing her slimming world recipes which are frankly awful carb laden crap. Recipes using cans of coke for sauce ffs and slimming world ready meals that are tasteless and over processed.If you want to lose weight you need to stay away from processed foods and limit carbs. No-one would lose weight eating cheesy mash or pasta . It might be worth reading up on how the body processes empty carbs. You're basically just eating sugar

Ah shit, XiCi, best tell my body to quickly put on the 5 stone I have lost, based on your limited snapshot.

Same here MammaTJ. Guess all that lost weight was a figment of my imagination.

Also, please explain what you mean by 'processed' food or 'empty carbs'. All food is processed in some way (unless you eat raw from your own garden only) and all carbs provide energy.

I think that all these diets work by getting you to eat consciously not unconsciously.
If you take a moment to asses what you are eating and decide if it is healthy for you (and make healthier choices) over a period of months you will see your weight decrease.
IMO it doesn't matter which plan you follow, if you find one that motivates you to make healthier food choices it will work

Stick with it. It can take longer than you expect as you can eat high quantities of free food but it really does work long term