First week doing slimming world, failed every day so far, aibu to think I won't lose weight?

[dipdapispants]

I went to my first ever slimming world meeting on Wednesday evening. I have been doing well during the day times but I haven't eaten at home for evening meal since Wednesday, through no real fault of my own. I ate at my brothers on Thursday as I was taking his daughter to watch some fireworks, yesterday and today I've eaten with the family I nanny for. I've not had a choice of what I ate for tea each time.

Thursday wasn't too bad, tuna and pasta with sweetcorn, all are syn free on slimming world but then we had cupcakes that my niece made so I couldn't say no to her.

Friday we had chicken, veg and stuffed mushrooms. Chicken had skin on I couldn't take the skin off without looking rude/picky and the mushrooms had cheese which I have milk for my Healthy A option so can't have cheese. Chicken without skin, veg and mushrooms without being stuffed would have been fine. Followed by a lindt chocolate teddy (tiny one)

Tonight I've had cottage pie full of cheesy mash. No idea if the mince was less than 5% fat which is syn free. No idea what else was in the mince. Followed by 2 glasses of wine.

So. 3 more days until weigh in. I'm not going to have lost weight, am I?

Free food? Sins?

Is this that weirdy muller light diet that lets you go 'unlimited'?

Stop beating yourself up!

Don't worry too much about the exact rules of this particular diet plan.

The fact that you thought about your food choices each time and made an active decision is hugely important.

I eat low carb but I would have eaten the cupcake my neice made me too. I might have had a lindt teddy too if I really really wanted it. Those would have been active choices (not like, say, out of control comfort eating of a packet of chocolate hobnobs)

However, if I didn't want the chicken skin I would have taken it off. I don't care if I am thought of as picky. I am picky. I choose not to eat food I don't want. I have no shame over that. I don't expect other people to pander to me though. I wouldn't expect someone to cook the chicken without the skin or to not put butter in the mash. I would thank them for the lovely food, eat less mash and take the skin off the chicken all without mention.

You don't need to explain if it is commented upon just say "It's lovely but I am full, thanks" or "I am not very hungry", noone will argue with that.

Don't beat yourself up, you are allowed syns (maximum of 105 a week) and looking at your week so far you haven't exceeded that so you have time to pull it back. The wine , cupcake and small chocolate are totally normal and as long as you count the syns are ok. Deprivation doesn't work, you'll just end up binging and you can't go from eating chocolate every day to never eating it at all (not saying you are, just am exampl). It's not a diet it's a lifestyle change and banning stuff won't do any good.

That said, don't feel guilty of being picky! I'd far rather eat lunch at home them go to the uni bar with friends at lunch and sip a diet coke so I can have chocolate later. Don't see the point in wasting syns on oil etc when there's far more worthwhile things! I get that it's hard a lot of the time and you do feel like an inconvenience but honestly, pulling skin off a chicken won't offend anyone. I'm assuming there was veg with the cottage pie, so in future fill up on that? Some of my friends do get irritated at times but I don't care - I don't tell them that eating fries 4 days in a row is awful, so they can't pass judgement on me taking a box of salad along. It is a shame that food is such a social thing and for me taking a salad or sandwich when we go to union bar for eg is no problem. When I eat out properly I try to stick to lower calorie meals. However, if I fancy a burger ill have one - no way am I paying £5 plus for a potato and some beans! I'd rather eat something I want while out and then cut back the rest of the week. And having a thick skin re 'you're boring' 'one takeaway won't hurt' comments is useful.

This might sound harsh but your op is full of excuses. If you're serious about dieting you need to learn to say no and not worry about people thinking you're being fussy. It's not fussy to not eat chicken skin or have a smaller portion or just eat at home! A lindt teddy is definitely not going to help! And you could have shared the cupcake or told your niece you were full etc. Have some prepared excuses or simply explain you're eating healthily.

I understand how hard it is to lose weight, I went up to a size 14 and now have managed to stay a size 8. It was tough but you need to change your whole attitude towards food. It takes a while before a change becomes a habit. You can still have the odd cake or chocolate or whatever treat occasionally but not loads of it. For example, I'm a chocoholic so I need a couple of squares a night! But not a whole bar. You just need to change your attitude towards food to a healthy one. Good luck op!

My cousin lost 5st on SW. She eats out all the time, has a just bite of something she shouldn't and leaves the rest. I think her secret is her amazing self control (which I don't have)

What you have described doesn't sound irredeemable Dip. I would say what other pp say and develop a few stock phrases arround not eating certain foods. Although I would also say that as you continue with this eating plan same for all you will have to learn to say no to some of these temptations if you are going to be really successful.

Are you keeping a diary? Start to look at what you have eaten, especially the syns. Google the Lindt teddy, find out the weight and syn it, it won't be as bad as you think. Eg a Freddo is about ?5 syns. You should be having some syns everyday.

Can you increase your exercise before weigh in to help burn off some of those extra calories?

You should feel proud of all the small steps you are taking, the weightloss will come if you stick to this diet. You work in a difficult job for losing weight all those biscuits, petit filous, half eaten fish fingers and a good dose of loneliness and monotony, I too was an overweight nanny many moons ago but there are ways to overcome this with support and will power.

Finally I would think about telling people you are being careful about what you are eating and garner their support.

Hth

Betrayedbutvsurvived has the rught of it.

If you want to loose weight, you have to change the way you live because eating is a bit part part of your life. In the end there is no option except to est less week on week than you are eating now.

There are two options.
Eat less per meal than you eat now and do not snack.
Fast for two days a week and eat normally the rest of the time.

Neither is particularly easy. Eating less all the time means watching your food all the time, which can become obscessive and wearing. Fasting two days a week is difficult...

BUT... on a fasting day, you know that tomorrow, you can eat normally. You are not in purgatory for life. And aftere a fsasting day, you find your appitite is lower than before. Your body does not automatically stqrt laying down all the food youneat as fat in readiness for famine because you eat well aft a fasting day. My FOAK is diabetic on insulin. If she can loose weight by fasting two days a week, it is possible for other people to do the same.

PS, another simple trick is to turn the heating off. Your body uses more energy just keeping itself warm than any other activity.

Good Luck

Don't be too harsh on yourself, overhauling your diet is tough and I'd expect a few setbacks while you're still getting used to it. Whether you lose weight this week probably depends on how much you weigh and what your diet was like before hand. I think in the first few weeks you can get away with only half following the diet and still lose weight. I'd suggest having a good read of your book, have a look at the website then come over and hanq out on the slimming world MN board. The diet gets a bad name because some people seem to follow their own weird version were they try and recreate favourite recipes using smash, Müller lights and other such things but in essence it's a high fruit and veg, low processed food plan. I think where a lot of people go wrong is that they don't include a third speed food (very low calorie density fruit and veg) at each meal, so for example your tuna and sweetcorn pasta would only have been on plan if you ate it accompanied by a large salad or a portion of green beans, broccoli etc. I've lost over 4 stone eating good portions of tasty normal food and so have many others at the group I attend but any lifestyle change is hard work so you do need to have a think about whether now is the right time and if it is pre plan how you are going to manage the kind of situations you encountered this week. I bet if you'd have told your family you had started a diet they would have tried to support you and wouldn't have thought your rude for passing on some of that food. Good luck.

I just started SW and have aways been dubious because of people XiCi describes. I know someone who lives off HUGE meals, literally mounds of pasta etc and she wonders why she doesn't loose!

I'm loving SW though, having proper food and decent size meals.

Hope you get a loss wednesday!

Perhaps sw isn't the best weight loss programme for you? You sound like you have similar habits to me- I've succeeded on calorie counting and on 5:2- because if I have a muffin/Lindt bear/ wine I count it, and make up the necessary cals elsewhere. Generally 200cal breakfast, 300 cal lunch and 500cal tea- then I have 500 cals to have wine and cake. And I do. Not the healthiest choice I suppose, but it works for me.

I don't think you've done that badly tbh but you do need to start saying no to cakes if you don't want them. There are always people who love to bake for others!

Summer - what is the 16:8 diet?

It's a fasting/timing plan. It sounds drastic at first but after a couple of days, when you're into it, your body naturally adjusts.

You eat for 8 hours a day and fast (only water or black tea/coffee) for 16 hours. That's it. You choose your own 8 hour slot and keep it regular each day. Eat whatever you want within that 8 hours, but the fast is what makes you lose weight so you have to be strict - not a grape or a mouthful of juice or even a chewing gum during your fast.

My eating period is 1pm - 9pm each day. So typically i'll have black coffee and water when I get up, have lunch at 1pm, 'breakfast' (cereal/fruit etc) at 4/5ish and then dinner with dh at 8.30. It works really well when you're busy/rushing to get out the door in the morning. No breakfast to try and cram in just because they say you 'should'. I take my sarnies/salad/pasta for lunch with me to work and take my breakfast in Tupperware and a flask for milk.
I try to make healthy choices for much of the time but if we're eating out or cakes are being passed around work then that's fine because it's the fast that is important - and as long as you stick to that, you're still likely to lose weight.

I went from 13st to 10st in a year without changing my diet (I was already making healthier choices but was struggling to actually lose weight) or changing my exercise. Just changing the timings of when you eat.

Can't remember where I heard it but someone said when you weigh up how sensible or sustainable a diet plan is ask yourself 'would you feed your children in this way?' I thought that was a really good principle and it's why I like slimming world, you can eat normal family meals just cooked in a healthier way and allow your eating to be guided by hunger.

Well I lost 3lbs :-)

Congratulations!

Well done dip.

I absolutely loved SW - the whole family ate it and some of their recipes became stock favourites i.e. their mac cheese is wonderful. I have a whole book of their recipes I printed off from their website.

I lost a stone quite quickly, but I have been diagnosed with an illness where the last thing I need to do is lose more weight, so have stopped SW.

But I loved every bit of it.

Well done op that is a good weight loss for your first week. I have been doing SW for three wekks now and lost almost a stone. I have been very committed so far but this week am struggling a bit and losing motivation. I'm hoping I can pull it back before mon weigh in.

stop the empty calories; booze, cakes, chocolates, sweets, biscuits. You KNOW what you need to cut back on. 'no thank you' is a perfectly acceptable response to food.

complex carbs are good. Most food is good. Too much food compared to what you burn off makes you put on weight.

Well done