my daughter has burnt herself

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I just need traffic - dd age 3 just put 2 fingers on the hob- she has got little blisters the size of her fingerprint on these two. Her hand is submerged in icy water but she has been screaming and crying for 45 mins. I can't get her to cuddle me, eat even a bit of junk, watch peppa, she's just screaming in shock and probably pain.
I've got a baby ds I can't get hold of dh and my mum is at the cinema. Somebody help me I'm panicking about her and I don't know what to do

cold water only. No gels, especially not from an opened tube No baby bum cream, nothing but clean cold water as comes out of the tap in the UK. If you are given prescribed ointments, that's obviously fine.

take to A and E or minor injuries due to relative size of child and burn, (and failure of junk food/Peppa Pig, usually a good indication) but be prepared for a long wait. All kids have accidents, try not to beat yourself up. She will not be permanently damaged and she won't do it again!

OP, you are not at all. This kind of stuff happens to us all. I had a bit of an incident this week. After it was resolved and the baby was ok I was at a baby group and every single
person had a similar story. You are not shit.
Cross posts with Someday.

I think you probably do need to go to minor injuries to get it sorted out if possible. When my DS was 3 I he touched the top of a toaster and had 'kenwood' burnt and blistered into his palm! toaster was on the floor as we were having our kitchen done. How's that for bad parenting!!! Things things happen, so don't beat yourself up.

After cold water treatment, I wrapped it with cling film. Apparently it helps to keep it clean, stops stuff sticking to it and stops the oxygen getting to it which makes it hurt a bit less. The nurse at minor injuries said that was the right thing to do. She then applied a gel and a dressing. The gel took some of the heat out of it and kept it moist. Think they suggested a bit of calpol or calpol and neurofen for the pain. Think I had to get it seen by the nurse at the GPs after a few days to see how it was doing and get the dressing changed.

It'll be ok! Just horrible to see them in pain, isn't it?

When DS did pretty much what your DD has done we had to take him to A&E, they looked at his blisters and said they needed to de-roof them and dress his fingers. They also got someone from plastics to come and look at them. They tried to de-roof them but it wouldn't work so they dressed them and told us to keep an eye and sent us on our way.

Hope it's not to traumatic for you and DD and you're not the worst mum, unfortunately these accidents happen.

HI, my son did this aged around 3 and we kept his hand submerged in cold water for the entire evening, and kept a close eye on him overnight. I left a bowl of water next to his bed so he could put his hand in if necessary, In the morning the pain had subsided and he trotted off happily to nursery. (with a massive blister)

You are not a bad mum at all and accidents do happen.

She needs medical attention at A & E. It needs to be assessed by the doctors on duty there.

Even if she's sleepy and less upset now you probably still should take her to minor injuries or A&E. The nurse told me that the main reason they like to see littlies is to dress it properly to minimise the risk of infection. And I guess assess the severity of the burn (depth of it?) and whether they need any further treatment.

You are not the world's worst parent, OP!

DS1 did this to all four fingers on one hand when he was about five, but on a woodburner (i did tell him to go nowhere near it, but he got up and sprinted to it when I took my eyes off him for literally a second). I feel terrible now as I didn't take him to A&E, just had his fingers in cold water for at least an hour then dressed it with burn gel and clingfilm once we got home. It healed fine a lot quicker than I'd expected it to.

I guess the other thing you could do is phone them and explain the situation, or phone a pharmacist for advice?

Please don't feel like you're the worlds worst parent, we have all been there. Accidents happen.

You certainly aren't the worst mum in the world. These things happen. Big hugs and hope your dd is ok (I'm sure she will be) x

as above, in such cases:

tepid water for AT LEAST 20 minutes
NO cream!
then cover with cling film
Seek medical assistance asap

give calpol/nurofen to take edge of pain

Accidents happen, they don't make you a bad mum! Good luck

You're not a bad mum, this stuff happens. You might be in shock yourself though, I know when my ds scalded himself (backed into me when I was holding a fresh cup of hot coffee, spilled a couple of teaspoons of coffee at most) I was a shaky wreck.

I'm sure she'll be OK but you're doing the right thing getting her checked. In the meantime, have you spoken to the NHS on 111? I'd give her some Calpol or Neurofen as well.

Happened to my little one too. All was fine and we still talk about her touching the hob to see if it was hot eight years later!!!

Lightly cover with the cling film, don't tightly wrap it round.

clean it gently with a clean towel, wrap in clingfilm - go to A+E just to be sure

also give her calpol

You are not the worst parent - I had to take DD3 for a burnt hand when I pored gravy over it so I win that one!

But don't use iced water - it can hurt and cause shock - tepid cool water is best xxx

Absolutely no cream as it seals in the heat (the walk in centre told me off for this when I badly scalded my leg recently). With hindsight they were definitely right!

Ive just done my first akd at work course and they said all burns to hands need to be seen plus the water should be cold runni g water not water in a cup etc

The water will have done a lot of good I think OP
When DH gets home take her to A&E or similar for medical attention - cling film might be an idea?
Park the guilt to take best care of your DD

My son did this, with all 5 fingers on the one hand. We took him to A&E. They will bandage to prevent infection, and check that the burns are not too deep (which would need something else, not sure what as our son's weren't that deep).

You are not the world's worst parent. My DH was stood with him, said "X don't touch the hob" turned round to put something in the sink and that's when DS burnt himself. It happens, look after yourself too. My DH was so worried that people would blame him, and not one person did - all the ladies at his work told him all the stories of when they'd done the same or worse.

Hope you're at A&E being seen and your DD is ok.

I hope you've got on ok at a&e.

DS burnt his finger pads on the oven age 1. He also screamed for ages. We took him to the minor injuries unit and they used jellnet stuff and saw him every day for a week to change the bandages. They were fab. Don't give yourself a hard time, she will be fine.

I did it as an adult with a lightbulb, fuck me did that hurt. The end of the fingers are so sensitive I had tears in my eyes myself for an hour.
Can't begin to imagine how it must feel with tiny fingers.

You arent a bad mum BTW. A bad mum wouldn't be asking for advice. You always blame yourself but really, don't. Hope she's all OK now and tucked up in bed.