Response to a thank you card

[Dontfencemein]

DS had his second birthday recently and I wrote thank you cards to those who had given him gifts. Most of the cards were specific to the particular present and had a little note about what he was doing with it, etc.

His aunt, my SIL has sent an e mail to my husband, taking offence that the card was signed "best wishes" and not "lots of love". She clearly sees the former as cold and impersonal and wants my husband to "have a word with me".

I am furious and upset in equal measure, mainly because I can't get my head around this level of nit picking. I did not mean anything by "best wishes", it is how I sign off most things. I am working, pregnant and have a toddler and frankly won't bloody bother the next time.
AIBU?

Tell her to fuck off...

She's a headcase.

She is a bloody idiot. Just ignore it and definitely don't bother with another thank you card.

I'd send her another thank you card

Thank you for being such a pedantic cowbag and asking my dh to 'have a word' i have now seen the error of my ways.

Oodles and oodles of love and smoochies and hugs and squishes

Dontfence

This is why you dial their number and then hand the phone to DC to blether their thanks. They cant ever say it isnt personal then can they? plus no cards for you to write. Win win!

Tell her to fuck off.... This

Or infact your DH should have told her straight off.

So, every single birthday, christmas, thank you, invitation, new house etc. care from now on will always be signed 'Best wishes' I assume.

I would e-mail her partner and say you were very offended by her rude e-mail and can he have two words with her. Those words being 'fuck' and 'off'.

Oh and sign it 'lots of love'

^card obviously

She'd be getting a "Regards" from me from now on. In fact, I'd let your dh be responsible for all correspondence with her.

Do what Kurri said

Bonkers. In these times of XXOO I really admire people who can show some restraint in their correspondence.

To continue along Adeline's theme, I'd sign everything

"Yours sincerely
From the office of
Dontfence

pp. squiggle "

Unless she's an 'ave a word' style character from a Martina Cole novel I'd tell her to get stuffed.

I'm afraid I would be taking the piss out of her forever more with every single thank you card.

Stay away from the Woman.

Tell your DH he'll be sending any thank you letters to her in future as it is his child and his sister - they can argue between themselves about the appropriate phrasing, in fact reply to his email from her copying her as well.

Of course in reality I'd just ignore.

Next time

"Dear Sir/ Madam

Master Don't Fence acknowledges receipt of your gift/ voucher/ other item and wishes to pass on polite thanks.

Regards

D. Fence (Mrs.)"

I believe the correct response is to send her a fuck you card now.

My mother doesn't even write 'love' on cards to me. She does to my brother and her grandchildren. It's a standing joke in my family (unknown to her) .

Send her this for Christmas

There's a site where you can get feces sent with a personal note? Maybe send her that AMD make sure the card reads,
"love and shit"

Bloody hell. I'm struggling to imagine someone receiving a thank you letter and then taking such offence at the phrasing that they feel they should email a complaint!

I would ignore. And then never, ever send her a thank you letter again.

Sign her Christmas card in a completely over the top way e.g.:

'love and snugglesin a very special way'
'with all the love in whole the world'
'may the blessings of baby Jesus and all the angels be with you'

You should make all future thank you letters in the style of company correspondence with her name, details of gift etc just slightly offset and in a different font from the rest of the letter.
Just so she gets that warm glow from a "personal" letter.