Response to a thank you card

[Dontfencemein]

DS had his second birthday recently and I wrote thank you cards to those who had given him gifts. Most of the cards were specific to the particular present and had a little note about what he was doing with it, etc.

His aunt, my SIL has sent an e mail to my husband, taking offence that the card was signed "best wishes" and not "lots of love". She clearly sees the former as cold and impersonal and wants my husband to "have a word with me".

I am furious and upset in equal measure, mainly because I can't get my head around this level of nit picking. I did not mean anything by "best wishes", it is how I sign off most things. I am working, pregnant and have a toddler and frankly won't bloody bother the next time.
AIBU?

'May the steam from my piss warm your cockles. Snooky ooky wooky snuggles, kissy wisses and bunnikins nosey rubs'.

Dear Auntie,

Go fuck yourself.

Lots of love and kisses

Dontfence

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

I like my SIL a lot, but if I signed a note to her "lots of love" she would probably be quite seriously worried.

I'm also thinking what would happen if I received a similar email from my sister telling me to have a word with my husband about something like that. I think I would either (a) tell her to get over herself or (b) get in touch with her husband to find out whether she was feeling quite well.

Hahaha at Narp.

Do it, OP, DO IT!!!!

Wow. If I were your DH I'd be tempted to respond with a head-tilting " Are you sure you're feeling ok. It's not like you (even if it so is) to get worked up about something so inconsequential.!

Reply:

Dear SIL,
DH has passed on your e mail as it is more to do with me than him. I suggest you get a life.

Lots of love
Dontfencemein

ps. Here is the link on Mumsnet which you might find helpful

Actually, not the PS ...

Tell her to have a word with herself - silly moo

You're so good to even send a thank you card. Silly woman.

Did she think the card was actually from your DC? Or should have been written in his style, should he have one, which he doesn't, because he's two. So she is inventing in her head her nephew's preferred style, when writing to her, which he isn't, because he's two.

Or... get him to write it next time. The whole thing

So - what is she like usually? What did DH say? What will he reply? How old is she?

I would send 'regards' on every future card, well actually I don't think she'll be getting any future cards.

Your DH must instanslty put her in her place and tell her never must she go to such lengths to pick at you again. Tell her to get a life too.

dreadful

et your husband to tell her that no, he won't be 'having a word' with you because you're his wife, not a naughty child and if she has a problem with you, she can contact you directly

^ this too.

its hideous isnt it.

Elsa has it spot on!

That calls for a 'yours etc' at the end of all future correspondence. That, or take the route favoured by my darling GM and send cards from your house, eg 'from no 57', for that utterly personal touch.

How ridiculous and pedantic of her.

Some of the suggestions for replies on here are very good though.

Jesus wept. Some people find offense in anything. Is she normally like this OP? Best wishes is lovely..

Dear SIL,
Thank-you for you email to D.S., although I will admit I found it a little confusing, are we meant to write a critique of our correspondence to each other and send it to each others partners. I am somewhat slow to keep up with current trends sometimes. However in the spirit of joining in I suppose I should point out to you that your grammar is incorrect in several places, your use of informal language was inappropriate in a number of instances and if you wish to insult someone I think a more direct approach is often more sucessful. For instance I would say the general tone of your email was a malicious attempt at one upmanship by a poorly educated goady woman with nothing better to do with her time than shit stir. See how much more effective that is.
Warmest regards

Oops naughty me, I'll just forward that on to you hubby
Love and best wishes x

Ridiculous! My DC have never ended with love or lots of love they just don't feel comfortable with it in letters to such family members. I sneak kisses in after they have written them and now they are older it's a family joke. When he is older I woukd encourage him to write in a very formal tone!

So your husband replied telling her to get a life, right?

Absolutely crackers!

I think 665's response is great.