To serve wedding cake as a desert?

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Getting married next month - had plans to serve a 2 course meal, do the (short) speeches then serve wedding cake as a desert (it's not fruit cake) with jugs of cream on the tables for people to help themselves.

My DM thinks people expect desert as well and will feel short changed. Thoughts? I am worried I am indeed being unreasonable but I am looking to keep costs low where possible.

YANBU.

If your having an afternoon wedding, IME a lot of pudding / cake doesn't get eaten as people are either full or too pissed to care.

We got married mid afternoon and served our 4 tier wedding cake at about 6ish (chocolate, raspberry white chocolate, lemon and fruit) as our main dessert along with creme brûlée, fruit and you had a choice of vanilla ice cream or yogurt to be served with it.

Only half of of the cake got eaten, same with creme brûlées, I wish I only bothered with cake now. We ended up giving away cake, taking it home etc.

We then put on a late night buffet (fruit, more baking, chips etc) which only 1/2 was eaten. Waste of money and food!

Yabu to ruin a good cake with cream... However serving cake as a dessert is a very good idea and one i have experienced (and sounds like other mntters) at several weddings. Its more common than you think. Go for it and congratulations, just keep the cream away from the cake.

Wish we had done this. Was a REALLY hot day, and after 3 courses people weren't exactly hungry for cake. Most got left and wasted. Could have saved us a bit of money just having 2 courses.
YANBU

Whaaat??? as gluten free can be crumbly

Does the cake maker not know how to bake properly?

I have made everything from victoria sponges to christmas cake gluten free, and never had problems with crumbling.

Nothing against chocolate cakes, would prefer that to a plain sponge, just not sure about the reason!

Yes to keeping the cream away from the cake, I was assuming that was there for the people who opt for the fruit instead.

Also someone has mentioned coffee as an extra, I wouldn't say it's an extra but an essential, assumed you were doing that though.

Am already doing tea and coffee. I think we are just going to order desert - people are making such a fuss that I'll just serve the cake with our bacon or haloumi rolls that are coming out later and hope for the best.
I really didn't want waste but I am being interpreted as looking like I'm being cheap so I'll have to foist it in large quantities on those who have made a fuss!

Don't be forced into adjusting your day to suit others! Tbh most people don't even remember the food at weddings - I went to 5 last year and would struggle to tell you what was on the menu of any aside from the hog-roast and Macarons (but then I was helping out at the wedding so was involved enough to remember).
We had canapés during drinks/speeches, a load of Moroccan lamb with assorted sides and then cake (very rich to being near brownie with ganache) and strawberries. Not one single person dared to complained and they would have been told to bog off if they had.

We did that! Had a yummy chocolate cake and served it with berries and a coulis.

My DM was similarly worried that people would feel short changed so we did one cheeseboard per table afterwards as well. Still worked out cheaper.

We didn't have any allergy issues but I guess they could have just had the berries and coulis?