I've actually known him for years but not very well and a few months ago he asked if we could meet up for a coffee so we did. I like him physically and he's very intellectual and I like his conversation. But after a while he told me he's got holes in his shoes but he's too tight to buy new ones and although he has a well paid job and savings he'd rather just leave it. So he has only one pair of shoes that let the water in every time it rains. I think this kind of meanness could be a real problem and since I have already dated a lot of awful men in the past I really don't want to put myself in that position again of having to get out of a bad relationship.
I've told him I'm sorry but I don't want a relationship with him (but not why) and he is angry with me about it. But I don't think my reason is wrong iyswim. I am a lone parent with a severely disabled child and I feel that he expects me to be grateful for wanting his attention too. I find that so many men think if you're a lone parent your life is a mess and you need them to come and sweep you off your feet.