To avoid visiting this friend and her husband from now on?

[Mia1079]

One of my new(ish) friends that I met through a hobby about 8 months ago invited me round to her house for lunch with her husband. Now I'm not a prude or anything, but imagine this: everything was normal, we'd just finished having lunch and she said to him:

"I really want an iPad. I know we're meant to be saving money but if you pick one up for me when you go out later, there'll be a blowjob in it for you."

A conversation then ensues where he umm-s and ahhs, says he would need more sexual favours than that and the conversation ends with her poking his tongue out, him saying "don't tongue me!" and her replying, "you've never said that before!"

I'm sat through the whole of this like
Was this weird or am I being unreasonable to have felt really uncomfortable? I don't even know them that well (have only met her husband once before) and with just the three of us sat there, it was so awkward!

Woke up to a text from her this morning..."I managed to convince him to get me an iPad in the end but I had to agree to all sorts of sexual favours lol"

I know they're married. I know they have sex... but I don't want to hear about it. I wouldn't over share details about my relationships so I would appreciate the same (at least with this friend.) AIBU to avoid being alone with these two again?!

I think I would just text back "Gross". Maybe add a 'lol' if you don't want to hurt her feelings. It is gross though - why can't they just have sex when they both want to, instead of when only he wants to, and what the hell difference does an ipod make to consent? Eugh, gross.

Hah! Cross post with pps regarding pampas grass! Wicker hearts you say? The only swinger I know didn't have any wicker hearts. I don't think he had any pampas grass either.

YANBU, even if you knew them really well it would still have been sleazy and inappropriate.

Agree with pps who say these people are tedious attention seekers.

It sounds like the kind of jokey conversation me and DH would have. In PRIVATE.

Eww to talking like that in front of other people. YANBU op.

Most definitely swingers!!

Tbf, if they're all polygamous and shit, there's no reason why they wouldn't want to set you up with a friend of theirs.

Especially if he's also a fan of open relationships.

Actually, when I first read your original post, I assumed that you'd gone round with a partner. Its more creepy that they had that conversation when you were round on your own.

God, I am so naive! As soon as I read the answers I thought 'of course!' But until then I was just thinking 'how juvenile' !
It's a good job I move in very staid circles.

i agree sound like swingers/ into 3 sums type thing.. but then why try and pull a friend into it... can join clubs/groups for that sort of thing.

Totally swingers!

Back when I was very young and naive I made a friend at my aerobics class. We went out a few times as a foursome and I often popped round of an evening for a drink, as her husband usually worked late. After a few months she started to be way TMI about their sex life. I was a bit embarassed but assumed that she was just more open about that kind of thing than I was. It was only when she was reading excerpts from Nancy Friday and looking meaningfully into my eyes that I cottoned on.

I always think that people that have to talk about it in front of others are obsessed because in reality they hardly ever DTD and never kinky fuck territory when they do. Bores.

Definitely inappropriate but I don't think they're trying to get you to chuck your keys in a bowl, it's probably more that they haven't got a very well developed filter about how to speak in the company of other couples. In a way it's nice when people feel comfortable enough to speak freely with their friends but when it gets to the oversharing stage, it's a bit cringey.

Not that kind of photography - at the club!

Definitely testing the water for a threesome.

Anything from recruiting for a 3-way, just having no filter, or being intentionally vulgar.

If you enjoy her company, see her away from her DH. If she brings up their sex life, say 'TMI, dear' and change the subject. You can always cool down the friendship later if you decide to.

As far as introducing you to a friend, remember that even if he was a nice guy, you'd probably end up spending a lot of time with them.

I'm with you all the way OP. i find grown adults who obsessed with talking about their sex lives to all and sundry very, very tedious. I'd be avoiding them in future. It's just so not cool.

I feel sorry for her husband, that his wife won't have sex with him unless he's bought her something.

Text back

TMI....are you swingers trying to soften us up ?

Wow, a £400 blow job. She must be good. On a serious note, I wouldn't say that in front of friends I've had for over 20 years. It's not normal.

Oldraver Sun 01-Nov-15 15:53:43
Text back

TMI....are you swingers trying to soften us up ?

Yes!!!! The perfect response.

i would just stop replying to her texts and be cool with her

im not surprised you felt awkward

swingers, definitely.

Thinking about it - do you need an iPad? Perhaps if you offered...

Mrsdevere I completely agree. If the only conversation you have is to attempt to shock then something's a bit amiss.