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People that refuse to go anywhere not nt as they have nt membership

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Oolva · 30/10/2015 20:21

This really boils my wee. I'm my group of friends some insist on going to the same nt places we've been to many times before rather than trying somewhere new as "its not nt so would be wasting money".

They aren't being logical right?

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Notso · 31/10/2015 00:14

We were given NT membership as a present last year.
This year has been spent diligently visiting various places, pretending to the kids it's a good idea and trying not to look horrified at how overpriced everything is.
The giver of the pass has been hinting to us to renew. We won't be.

AZombieNinjaChewedUpBankWadger · 31/10/2015 00:28

I work somewhere not NT but similar. My goodness but NT members are a special breed! The idea to an overwhelming majority of them that the NT hasn't got an over priced monopoly on heritage sites is utterly to many of them. The number of disgusted flounces I've endured when their orange card is rejected. I just now.

Some people have multiple memberships. I love them.

So no OP YANBU, but you are pissing into the wind I'm afraid.

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Oolva · 31/10/2015 08:11

Yes yesAZombieNinjaChewedUpBankWadger! I can imagine the people you deal with.
Some people let an annual membership ruin their years activities.

Do these people never go on holiday as it would be a waste paying for two beds? Or refuse entry to Granada or matchu p as they have nt membership at home?

I'm multiple membership, I made the eh membership worth it in a weekend so anything extra is a bonus.

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EWLT · 31/10/2015 08:26

I consider my NT membership a charitable donation that happens to get me and the family some nice days out and free parking in the Lake District. I'm not particularly bothered about getting "value" from it.

However, I don't like to spend a lot on mid-week meet-ups with friends, partly because that seems a waste, as DC are happy with their little friends and the Mums are only going to sit about chatting wherever we go and partly because I prefer to share the "big" days out with DH.

ottothedog · 31/10/2015 08:43

Yup know the type. They are tight. The worst are the ones who insist, so you have to fork out £30 for your family for a day out to a wood miles away, as you dont have membership, but them spending a fiver on parking at some other wood would be 'a waste of money'

EWLT · 31/10/2015 08:44

No, that's not the "type" in OP at all ottothedog, as OP also has NT membership

Duckdeamon · 31/10/2015 08:53

OP is unreasonable since you too have NT membership! So you won't have to spend money by meeting where your friends would prefer to.

Sleepybeanbump · 31/10/2015 08:58

I'm like this. Entrance fees for places like this- English Heritage for example - is a LOT, especially of you're used to never paying entrance. DH and I gave in when we were in Northumberland recently as everything was EH rather than NT and we spent a fortune in comparison with most holidays. Just because YOU think people can afford something doesn't mean they actually can, or that they should do or want to. What's wrong with people being careful with their own money? If someone is happy going somewhere for 'free' vs shelling out tens of £, who are you to judge them?

Sleepybeanbump · 31/10/2015 09:02

And yes, we looked at getting EH membership but there's simply nothing near us at home and more than likely we'd never get our money's worth over a year. Yes, I could see it as a charitable donation, but already belong to RSPB and wildlife trusts for that reason.

Can't bear people preaching about how other people should spend their money.

DinosaursRoar · 31/10/2015 09:11

Oh OP - you've already said, they go on fancy holidays, they drive big cars, they do spend their money, but not in the ways you would value.

I assume as yo'uve not answered if the day out you wanted was a different type of day or just a run round some formal gardens/woods for the DCs with a natter for the grown ups in a different location that what you wanted to do was go do the same stuff in a new location.

Perhaps if you want them to pay for a day out, you suggest a day out that's not a National Trust type day out? How about a farm/zoo, or a museum, or theme park, or bowling, or swimming pool with cool slides, or visit the coast or any other sort of day out that's not "tire the kids out woods/formal gardens then perhaps a peek round an old country house (hissing at the younger ones not to touch anything) before a brew and a slice of cake in the coffee shop and then head home."

Perhaps your problem isn't that they won't try somewhere new, but that they don't want to do the same thing in a new location, however would be prepared to pay out for a different sort of day out?

CrabbyTheCrabster · 31/10/2015 09:12

You don't sound as though you like your friends much, OP.

I wouldn't want to waste money going somewhere expensive to sit around chatting with friends either. What's the point when you've got an NT membership? You want to go and explore somewhere different, do it on your own time and out ofyour own pocket.

ottothedog · 31/10/2015 09:41

Ok then EWLT

I know the type. They are tight

An even worse type are the ones . .

DinosaursRoar · 31/10/2015 10:05

ottothedog - as the OP wants to effectively do the same thing, but at a venue that will cost them both money instead of one that would be 'free' for them both, perhaps the OP is the one who seems to be "that type" - the ones who always want to do the most expensive option because they can afford it and don't think you have a right to say no to spending your money how you see fit.

OP - seriously, suggest a different type of day out if you want to make it a 'costing' day out. I'd not pay to visit another castle or country house this half term, but I did pay out for various other types of days out.

ThisisMrsNicolaHicklin · 31/10/2015 11:21

We had this in my family but we solved it like this: first of all every one going on a trip had to pay an average of whatever was paid on the gate that day (obviously children and adults pay an average of their respective rates). Secondly, we all have to make an effort to bring something to the table that will reduce the cost, we
are a mixture of memberships, staff discounts, Groupon/Wowcherers, coupon clippers and just plain raking
about for deals.
Mostly it works out fairly, sometimes I up paying a little bit more on top of a membership but other times I pay a couple of pounds for something that otherwise would have cost me mega bucks. Also we go to a pretty eclectic
mix of places depending on vouchers going out of date etc. We really like it, would something like this work for you?

SurlyCue · 31/10/2015 11:26

Wow! That sounds like way too much calculator work effort for a couple of hours running about amongst a few trees and a cuppa on a rug.

ThisisMrsNicolaHicklin · 31/10/2015 11:37

We don't mind it at all. Although, I'm sure when 4 generations of us turn up waving membership cards, printed out emails, payslips, pension books and cornflake packets the
poor person behind the till needs a
stiff drink afterwards

SurlyCue · 31/10/2015 11:40

Do you AZombieNinja?

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