SIL - child changing a nappy at the tables in a soft play centre

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AIBU to find this really disgusting or am I over sensitive?

SIL thinks nothing of changing her child's nappy while were sitting in the coffee shop part of a soft play area.

She just puts them on her lap to do it. She doesn't even make much of an attempt to hide it -so people at the next table who are eating food have a view of her baby's bottom.

I feel really embarrassed but don't think it's worth saying anything and falling out with her over it.

Luckily I've only seen her changing wet nappies in this way - so far anyway.

She didn't go in to the bathroom to wash her hands afterwards.

There were several adults there -we could have minded her other children while she popped into the baby change room which was about 20 foot away.

A friend did this too once. We were in a coffee shop in another children's play centre and it was very quiet and the baby changing room was nearby - it was empty and clean. My friend asked if we'd mind if she changed her baby's nappy on the floor next to our table - everyone said they didn't mind as it felt to awkward to say 'yes actually I do mind' . She changed the dirty nappy and pointed out the colour of the baby's poo. I felt a bit sick but pretended I wasn't as I sipped my coffee and tried to avert my eyes.

Maybe I'm overly sensitive but I think nappy changing should be done away from where food is consumed - and near a sink where you can wash your hands after. If you're out in the wilderness then use a hand sanitiser and wash your hands as soon as you get a chance.

I have 2 DCs and it was never a big deal to pop to the baby change room or the bathrooms.

Plenty baby changing facilities are manky so prob lap chge is better for baby too.

Op I love your 'if you're in the wilderness use a hand sanitizer'... What wildernesses do u go to???. What do u do if your... unexpectedly... in a wilderness?

Doesn't bother me at all it's just a wee. Much better than using the (usually) dirty changing areas in those places.

Ah, the joys of progress. Nowadays there are baby changing rooms in almost every cafe and restaurant, so people should use them.

We must be going to very different places.

It's a shame if the baby changing facilities are disgusting but some people are very affected by the sight and smell of poo through no fault of their own. I have had to fight to stop myself throwing up before now.

Babies will soon be out of nappies unless they have SN but my gagging and retching are probably permanent. It should not be an either/or situation though as with some consideration and proper management both needs can be met.

Parents should not be afraid to complain to the centre management, ask for somewhere clean to change the baby or vote with their feet and go to the centre up the road which has some decent facilities.

I have never seen a pooey nappy being changed outside of the toilet. I must hang out at some tame establishments

It's gross. I remember last summer when I was waitressing at a cafe I saw a mum change her child's nappy on one of the picnic benches outside when all she had to go was walk 30 seconds to the disabled/baby-changing loo inside the cafe I certainly don't want to see your child's bits and dirty nappy when I'm trying to do my work, especially when people are going to be eating at that same bench after you've left. Fair enough if there's no appropriate facilities around but when there is it's just rude and disgusting.