Dating an older man

[Katrina1000]

So I met this guy a few months back and we have really hit it off. Not a day goes by that he doesn't talk to me, he likes taking me out, and we have so much in common! The downside is that he is 18 years older than me. Being honest, I'm 19 but I'm tired of guys that just want to get you into bed. I habe traveled/perforemd all over europe and am successful enough that I'm building my house, so I feel ready to settle down. My parents are in their 60s and are ok with it as long as he makes me happy. However I live in a small town and the ladies love to gossip. So I'm wondering if I should stay with him? Is the age difference a big deal?

I'm also 19 and when I was 17-18 I was involved with two guys, one aged 26 and the other 28. I know thats not as big an age gap as yours, but both of these 'men' were highly immature and both of them used me for sex, treating me like a disposable commodity and it messed me up for a while. I'm now with a 20yo guy who is the man of my dreams, I have never had a man respect me and love me like he does. Older guys that date/sleep with teens are generally too immature to keep girls of their own age.

Stay with him if you like him, but don't be surprised when it doesnt work out the way you'd hoped. Sorry to be pessimistic!

Both my sils are married up men 20 years older than them for years. No biggie. Why would you give a shiny shite what other people think?

My son is engaged to a woman 15 years older than him and they are perfect together.

Life is short. Grab happiness while it's here.

Katrina Are you new to Mumsnet or is this a windup? Can't see that you have posted before ...

You're 19 but already a successful "performer" and are building your own house.

Really?

You feel ready to settle down, at 19. Don't you want to go to university or something? You might learn something, you know.

Nobody uses the word 'ladies' unless they're a bloke

Is this a song by Heaven 17?

I was 18 when I met dp he was (and obviously still is) 15 years older than me.

13 years later were still together and still happy.

You need to be sure about what you want life wise though as the age gap means there is no time for wiggle room. We both wanted a serious settled relationship (ie one of us wasn't out partying all night etc) we both decided no children, he had already had his.

You need to decide if your "in it" all this talk of village gossip shouldn't even be on your radar! Either you want a relationship with him or you don't and that is all that matters esp as you family are on board. If he has children that is also a factor before deciding too

Oh, op, you forgot to ask us "ladies" for our "thoughts" and give us two little kisses.

I wouldn't saddle yourself with a man so much older. But you're 19, how are you touring europe and building a house? Did you mean to say that you're 29? Just date for another few months then knock it on the head and do not get pregnant.

Oooh I love that one Blueshoes

Here today gone tomorrowwww

"Building a house" as well, not buying one.

yes, excuse me!

designing it too?

on first read of the OP I thought it was one of those that is being written from the point of view of a sleb (or a book or film character) but I'm not up enough on celebrity gossip to know who it could be

Which young pop stars etc have recently been photographed with a more mature actor on a date?

I think it's a man. He wants to hear stories of young women who've gone out with old men. He can live off that fantasy for a bit.

I can't understand how a person would be so terribly bored that they'd want to come on and make up posts! Lol. I've only been on here a couple of months . . . does this happen a lot?

Anyways . . .

QuartzUcan So I think it's pretty unfair to summarize that MOST age gap relationships don't make it based on a handful of experiences